Fam­ily dilem­mas

Woman (UK) - - Inside This Issue -

Ihave three chil­dren, my sis­ter has two. we al­ways buy each other’s kids presents and cards for birth­days – noth­ing ex­pen­sive, just ways of say­ing ‘I love you and am think­ing of you’. my third child, a daugh­ter, is much younger than the oth­ers – we had her late and she’ll be four this year. and my sis­ter has for­got­ten ev­ery sin­gle one of her birth­days. So far she’s been too young to no­tice, but since her broth­ers’ birth­days are one and two months be­fore hers, I think she’ll no­tice soon. what can I say with­out up­set­ting my sis­ter?

Suzie says:

There may be some deep psy­cho­log­i­cal rea­son why your sis­ter ‘ed­its’ her mem­o­ries of your chil­dren, ‘Pho­to­shop­ping’ your youngest out of the pic­ture. And maybe at some point you could have that con­ver­sa­tion with her, to find out and help her deal with it. For now, all you need do is jog her mem­ory. When you help the son with the ear­lier birth­day de­liver thanks for his gift, re­mark on how much son num­ber two is look­ing for­ward to his birth­day too...and that your daugh­ter is of course now old enough to un­der­stand what is hap­pen­ing and to be get­ting ex­cited as well. Re­peat af­ter that sec­ond event, and of­fer some ideas of what your daugh­ter might like. If she for­gets then, tell her it’s time to talk.

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