‘Women are psychologically weak’
Sam Brick, 46, lives with her husband, Pascal, 56.
As a young teen waiting at a bus stop, I was approached by a man who grabbed me around the waist, attempting to touch my breasts. I could have chosen to see this incident as a sexual attack, but I saw it for what it was – a man chancing his luck.
That’s why I haven’t joined in the endless #metoo storytelling. To me, the majority of the accounts are simply socially awkward occasions – misinterpreted signals. Women aren’t doing themselves any favours in picking over these incidents – when men didn’t behave at their best and when, if we’re honest, we probably didn’t either.
There is an enormous difference between a violent Weinstein-style predator and a guy in a bar clumsily asking you out or slapping you on the bum. But as the days have gone by, I’ve had my Facebook timeline clogged up with attention-seeking women whining about incidents that just don’t compare with victims of sexual war crimes or slavery.
Going over occasions when we’ve felt uncomfortable because the wrong type of bloke approached us is ridiculous. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not one to accept bad behaviour. I poured a drink over a man to cool his unwanted advances. But I fought back. It didn’t traumatise me.
And as the campaign shows no sign of stopping, it’s the men I feel sorry for. I suspect most will be terrified to approach a woman without being vilified.
Women have always been physically weaker – that won't change. But #metoo has shown that we’re psychologically weaker, too. For every woman who has posted a story of their so-called harassment, I want to equip them with the life skills that have made me a survivor. If a car comes towards me I jump out of the way. If a bloke is a pest, tell him to move on. It shouldn’t make you a victim – unless you want it to. #metoo? Not me.
‘Men WILL be terrified to approach a woman’