How can I get him back?
Two years after my divorce I met a man I really liked. He was lovely and attentive but I just wasn’t ready for a new relationship, and even though we held hands and saw each other every weekend, I avoided having sex with him. There was no way I could get naked in front of a new partner. we were off and on for a time – mainly because, the closer we got emotionally, the more nervous I felt. I started to make excuses to get out of seeing him and eventually I told him it was over and ended it. I saw him again a year later and told him I was now ready for a relationship, so we began seeing each other again. But this time it was him who avoided sex, and would often cancel dates at a moment’s notice. now he’s told me it’s over and I’m absolutely broken-hearted. How can I get him back?
I’m not sure you can. You could explain to him that your reluctance to get intimate was nothing to do with him but simply because you just weren’t ready for a sexual relationship with someone new, but now you’ve moved on and are ready to begin again. But if in the meantime he’s moved on, or the hurt of your rejection was too much, then you’ve missed the boat. You may have to accept no means no.