‘I don’t know why IT’S a Taboo’

Woman (UK) - - Talking About -

Sevil Thomas, 42, lives with her part­ner, per­sonal trainer Leighton Smith, 35, and their daugh­ter Kiara, 21 months.

Deep down, I know I don’t need a wed­ding to know we’ll be to­gether for­ever, but there is still that girly part of me that wants to be a princess on my big day. I don’t be­lieve there are girl jobs and boy jobs any­more. That’s why I reckon, just as I take the bins out, so should I be able to pro­pose. Plus, I don’t think my part­ner is go­ing to pop the ques­tion any time soon.

We met in a gym eight years ago when we were both study­ing to be per­sonal train­ers. We got to­gether about four months later. I pro­posed shortly after we found out we were hav­ing a baby. He prob­a­bly wasn’t ex­pect­ing it. But I was shocked when he said no. He ex­plained he doesn’t be­lieve in mar­riage. Since then I’ve pro­posed at least once a year and he says no ev­ery time.

I un­der­stand why he doesn’t want to wed. He’s seen so many mar­riages break up. And we’re al­ready there for each other, for bet­ter or worse. But I will keep on propos­ing to him! Nowa­days, it is fine for the mum to be the bread­win­ner and for so­ci­ety to ac­cept stay-at-home dads, yet when it comes to pro­pos­als, we’re stuck in the Mid­dle Ages. I don’t un­der­stand why there is a taboo around it.

Leighton says: I’m tra­di­tional and nor­mally it’s a man who asks his other half to marry him, not the other way around. But I think mar­riage is a waste of time. We’re re­ally happy to­gether. I be­lieve in the say­ing, ‘If it ain’t broke, why fix it?’

he said no

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