HIS MUM INTERFERES
Ibroke up with a man I’d been seeing for two years about three months ago. I’ve made it clear that we’re over but we stay in touch as friends. Last week I got an irate call from his mother saying maybe it suited me but it meant he couldn’t move on. She even said I should get my mother to ‘unfriend’ him as he spends so much time online checking her feed for stuff about me. Should I tell him how she’s trying to interfere, or keep quiet?
I wouldn’t tell him about his mother’s call but then neither would I keep in contact with him. You don’t give me the impression that you stay in touch because you value him as a friend but because it’s easier than finishing the relationship for good. In that, she has a point. People often pretend that this approach is kinder. It isn’t. It’s simply not fair. End it by telling him it was good while it lasted but is now over. Then, block both of them on social media and yes, ask your mother to do the same.