‘I love my newfound independence’
Lisa Silcox, 43, lives in Kent with children, Jude, 16, Sid, nine, and Belle, six.
When my partner and I split in 2013, it wasn’t easy. I’d never really been on my own and now suddenly I was a single mum, too.
But after lots of late nights spent worrying, I realised that instead of looking at the situation as a bad one, I had to focus on the positives.
I’d spent years picking up after my ex, fighting over the TV remote, debating where to go on holiday. That was over. I’d been
trapped in the misconception that happy families involved a mum and a dad as a couple – but I wasn’t happy.
Now, single, I got to make all the rules. If I wanted to take the children on holiday, I could, and if I wanted to paint the kitchen purple, I could do that, too. The best thing was, the kids were happier too.
I loved my newfound independence, and with it came the confidence to find a new job, in a school, which I love.
Five years on, Jude, Sid and Belle love our walks in the woods, baking cakes and dancing to their favourite tunes. But it’s important to me they see their father too and they go to their dad’s a couple of nights a week.
I wouldn’t feel comfortable bringing a stranger into the children’s lives. If a man let me down, they’d be letting the kids down too, and that’s not something I’m willing to risk. If I did meet someone, they’d have to fit in with my life, not the other way around.
Super mum: Lisa