MY niece Stole from us. Should I tell others?
When I said yes to my sister’s 15-year-old daughter babysitting for us, I hoped it might heal an estrangement we’ve had for years. But then we started missing money and small items and the drink bottles were emptier every time she’d been. So, feeling bad about it, we set up some hidden cameras about the place. And, sure enough, we caught her going through our drawers, taking money and drinking with a friend. We contacted my sister and laid the whole thing in front of her. What appalled us was that she just defended her daughter and now we’re not talking again. Two of my neighbours use her as a babysitter too, and I’ve heard them complain of sneak burglaries. Should I tell them?
Sadly, yes. Keep quiet about this and you are in collusion and no amount of ‘stick by your family’ excuses that. Tell your neighbours what happened to you, what you did and how your sister responded. The point is that if you simply had a suspicion and your accusation was denied, what you would be passing on to your neighbours would be hearsay, and that doesn’t stand up in court. What you have, however, is proof – not only of the young person’s bad behaviour but her mother’s worse behaviour in refusing to take it seriously. Whatever the reasons for that estrangement, maybe they were good ones.
Having proof of someone’s bad behaviour should be acted on – even if they are family