WE SIMPLY CAN’T SPEND ANY MORE MONEY!
QMy youngest daughter got married in March. We’d booked a lovely hotel and had everything arranged. Then her fiancé said he’d found a cheap deal in a luxury place in Spain, available because of coronavirus fears. We objected, but she stuck up for him, so we had to cancel the arrangements and book there. Well, guess what happened – it was cancelled. We scrabbled together a wedding, but a lot of the guests were either fed up or self-isolating, so we had an intimate wedding. It cost us a lot less and our new son-in-law realised this. He now says since we saved money we should add it to the generous gift we have given them. We said no and now they are threatening to stop seeing us.
Suzie says
ATell your daughter you love her. Tell her firmly and calmly that, whatever happens, your door is always open to her. And then tell her you have no intention of spending any more of your savings. You funded her wedding and gave a generous gift. The fact the wedding cost less was a fortunate outcome of a shambles instigated by her husband and it could have actually cost you more. His demand is barefaced cheek. Someday she will see that. Sadly, she may come to regret backing him up.