Which man should I choose?
I’ve been separated from Q
my partner for the last six months and, while part of me keeps hoping we will get back together (we often sleep together), I know deep down that he doesn’t want me. For this reason, I started dating again and have met a nice man. He’s lovely and we have a lot of things in common, but something keeps stopping me from getting into a serious relationship with him. I feel messed up because on the one hand, I have an ex that broke up with me and, on the other, a nice man who cares – and I can’t choose. Ali, 38, Hants
37% of people feel sex ends too quickly
A The trouble with dating again is you can’t do it half-heartedly. Either you’re ready to meet someone new, or you’re not ready and shouldn’t do it. If you’re still sleeping with your ex and hoping you’ll get back together, then the answer is you’re not ready. Aside from the fact you’re not being honest with this new man, you’re not being honest with yourself. You need to step back from both men and have time alone to really think about what you want and why.