He’s angry his mate’s been so irresponsible
Q My son shares a flat with another young man who got a dog soon after they moved in together. My son has helped look after the dog, but now his flatmate has met a new partner who doesn’t like dogs. If he can’t find a home for her, he’ll take her back to the dogs’ home. My son is furious about this and thinks it’s very irresponsible.
He’s not in a position to take on a dog himself: he’s single and might move to another town for work. When his father and I have raised this, he becomes cross and says we’re unsupportive.
A We often respond defensively when someone tells us something that rings true, but isn’t what we want to hear. I expect your son knows it’s not a good idea on one level and was hoping you would give him licence to take the dog. You’ve said what you think and it’s now up to him to make his own decision. He’s aware it’s a serious responsibility, so he’s unlikely to take it lightly.