I don’t lIke my job

Woman's Weekly (UK) - - Health -

I’m in a job that I re­ally don’t like and I

know that I need to find some­thing else.

I make time to job search, up­date my CV and LinkedIn pro­file but then I don’t do it. I don’t know where the time goes. If I don’t do some­thing, I’ll just stay mis­er­able.

Ellen, lon­don

From what you’ve said, it sounds to me that you’re pro­cras­ti­nat­ing! I won­der what’s be­hind this be­hav­iour? I as­sume that you’re run­ning a story in your head that makes the out­come feel not very ap­peal­ing, such as ‘I won’t get a job’ or ‘all jobs are the same’ and so on. I have a few tips for you that I think will help.

Talk to oth­ers who have ap­plied for jobs re­cently and ask them about look­ing for work and for stick­ing with it.

Change the story in your head. You don’t know the mar­ket as you haven’t tried it re­cently. The real­ity is that, un­til you try, you won’t have a clear pic­ture of what’s go­ing on out there.

It might be a chore but just imag­ine how lovely it would be to be in a job that you en­joyed.

A coach called Mel Rob­bins gave a pop­u­lar on­line talk on how to act, not wait, and sug­gests the 5- 4 -3 -2 -1 rule. This is based on the fact that, when we have

a goal, we have five sec­onds to act on it oth­er­wise it just dis­ap­pears! If you count back­wards it keeps you fo­cused and your brain en­gaged and you’ll find your­self tak­ing ac­tion. Our brain can’t fo­cus on two things at once so the count­ing takes over and stops you run­ning the neg­a­tive script in your head about why it won’t work. By the time you get to Num­ber 1, you’ll be ready to act.

Just start­ing is of­ten all it needs to get into a task. It’s also im­por­tant to phys­i­cally move so, if you’re stuck at your desk, get up, start count­ing and then sit down again. As you move, you’ll shift the en­ergy in your body and you’ll feel gal­vanised. Prom­ise!

Act now, don’t wait

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