I’ve caught my part­ner mas­tur­bat­ing dur­ing a sex lull. Should I be up­set?

Women's Health (UK) - - KNOW HOW -

Nope. You might be a com­mit­ted cou­ple, but cou­ples are made up of two peo­ple, with two dif­fer­ent sets of needs. They’re ob­vi­ously tak­ing theirs into their own hands. You could see it as a com­pli­ment – for all you know, they were think­ing of you when the need arose. But what are you do­ing about your needs dur­ing this lull? Do you mas­tur­bate (al­beit more dis­creetly)? If you don’t, do you want to start? Or do you want to start do­ing it to­gether? See this as an open door to a con­ver­sa­tion that could take the awk­ward­ness out of the whole thing. The big­ger is­sue is why you’re hav­ing this lull. Maybe you’re just not feel­ing that sexy right now be­cause of work/ work­outs/kids/a mil­lion other things that can dim your li­bido. But if your other half is turn­ing you down night af­ter night in favour of the self-ser­vice op­tion, it’s time to ask why. As with any topic where egos are in­volved, it’s im­por­tant to show some tact. Af­ter all, you’re not the one who’s been caught with your pants round your an­kles. Oh, and a lock on the bath­room door will save ev­ery­one’s blushes next time.

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