DEAR Y&YW

From choos­ing the per­fect dress to deal­ing with venue is­sues, we’re here with the best ad­vice to help your big day run smoothly

You and Your Wedding - - Contents - DILREAL EMM FROM AS ONLI OUR NE FORU MS

No need to fret, we’re here to solve your wed­ding wor­ries

Think­ing ahead

We aren’t get­ting mar­ried un­til next sum­mer, so when would be a good time to buy my brides­maids’ dresses? Laura565

Y&YW says: It’s sur­pris­ing how quickly the big day will come around now it’s less than a year away, so you can def­i­nitely start look­ing at dresses now. You’ll be­gin to get a feel for the styles, colours and brands you like, as well as see­ing which ones you’re not as keen on. Book a date in the diary early in the new year to get your maids to­gether for a dress-shop­ping ses­sion. Hav­ing lots of time to choose your dream styles will en­sure that the process is en­joy­able, and not stress­ful.

Com­mu­ni­ca­tion chaos

Al­though we’re re­new­ing our vows very soon, the wed­ding events man­ager from our venue still hasn’t or­gan­ised a meet­ing date yet. I’m given dif­fer­ent in­for­ma­tion about when the meet­ing should be hap­pen­ing ev­ery time I call. I feel pushy al­ways chas­ing them up, but what can I do? Fion­a_wed

Y&YW says: When it comes to any spe­cial day, you need ev­ery­thing to be per­fect, so we to­tally un­der­stand the frus­tra­tion about not be­ing able to get hold of your venue co­or­di­na­tor. Send an email so your cor­re­spon­dence is in writ­ing, and ex­plain that you’re very ex­cited about your up­com­ing vow re­newal, but you need re­as­sur­ance in the form of a meet­ing to dis­cuss the finer de­tails. Give a list of dates when you are avail­able and ask that they con­tact you within the next few days to get you booked in. Don’t be afraid to fol­low up if you don’t hear back. It’s likely the venue is busy with other events, but you have ev­ery right to be in the know about yours!

Photo fears

Our en­gage­ment shoot is com­ing up very soon, but I’m usu­ally re­ally ner­vous in front of the cam­era. I’m re­ally wor­ried I won’t look nice in any of the pic­tures. Do you have any ad­vice? Mrs­david­son Y&YW says: An en­gage­ment shoot is sup­posed to be fun – it’s your chance to doc­u­ment one of the hap­pi­est times in your life. Try to think about en­joy­ing your­self with your part­ner rather than wor­ry­ing about pos­ing for the pho­tog­ra­pher. To en­sure you’re fully re­laxed on the day, make sure you wear a nice out­fit you know you will feel com­fort­able in, take some deep breaths while the pho­tog­ra­pher is set­ting up, and give your arms and legs a good shake to re­lease any ten­sion be­fore­hand. An­other good idea is to ar­range a ca­sual meet­ing with your pho­tog­ra­pher be­fore the shoot, as hav­ing this op­por­tu­nity to break the ice and get to know the per­son taking the pho­tos may make you less ner­vous on the ac­tual day.

Dress­ing up

My part­ner and I will be get­ting mar­ried at a regis­ter of­fice be­fore go­ing on to a ho­tel for our re­cep­tion. I’ve bought a glam princess-style wed­ding dress, but I’m wor­ried this is go­ing to be too much and I’m go­ing to look silly. Do you think I should buy a new dress? Sara­hanne

Y&YW says: It can be tricky choos­ing a dress to suit two dif­fer­ent venues, but rest as­sured that there are lots of clever tricks that you can do to change up your look to make it ap­pro­pri­ate for both. You could buy a small jacket or shrug to wear at the regis­ter of­fice, and then take it off for the after-party. Al­ter­na­tively, you could switch up your jew­ellery to cre­ate one sim­ple look and then a more glam­orous style for later on. Re­gard­less, as long as you feel com­fort­able and con­fi­dent in what you are wear­ing, then you will look fab­u­lous. Be­fore mak­ing any rash de­ci­sions about buy­ing a new wed­ding dress, be sure to try on your gown a few times be­fore the wed­ding day to see how you feel in it.

Newspapers in English

Newspapers from UK

© PressReader. All rights reserved.