Grandma’s home pre­served in pho­tos

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Af­ter Grandma passed away at the age of 101, the thought of dis­man­tling her home and dis­pers­ing her be­long­ings was heart­break­ing be­cause her house had re­mained un­changed for so many years. I knew we couldn’t keep ev­ery­thing, but never see­ing her house again was too much to bear.

I asked my cousin to take pho­tos of ev­ery room, ev­ery hall­way, ev­ery closet and ev­ery view in­side and out, so I could make an al­bum of “Grandma’s House.” Now I have an al­bum of pho­to­graphs that makes me feel like I’m stand­ing in the mid­dle of it again. My cousin even pho­tographed the auc­tion in which we sold the things none of the fam­ily wanted or couldn’t fit in their homes.

With all these re­al­ity TV pro­grams that deal with hoard­ing and clut­ter, I wanted to share this idea as a healthy al­ter­na­tive to keep­ing “things” in place of mem­o­ries. Look­ing at my photo al­bum is even bet­ter than hav­ing the ac­tual items be­cause ev­ery­thing is in the set­ting I re­mem­ber. What I’m try­ing to con­vey is — some­times you re­ally can’t take it with you, and a pic­ture is the next best thing.

— Julie in Braden­ton, Fla.

Dear Julie: Thank you for a valu­able sug­ges­tion. I’m sure I’m not the only grand­child who wishes that she had thought of it when my grand­par­ents’ home was be­ing dis­man­tled. I’m sure that look­ing at your al­bum brings back a mul­ti­tude of happy mem­o­ries.

Dear Abby: I love my fi­ancé, “Char­lie,” dearly, but I have one prob­lem. When I first met him he was wear­ing some plat­form boots I thought were out of style. He claimed he wore them be­cause he’s short. I think he just likes them.

I have men­tioned to Char­lie nu­mer­ous times that those boots have had it and no­body wears them any­more. He gets up­set when I tell him. I think he’s old-fash­ioned about some things. When we go shop­ping, I show him other types of boots — to no avail. How can I get him to start wear­ing footwear that is more up-to-date and looks bet­ter? — Can’t Get Through,

Ham­mond, La.

Dear Can’t Get Through: You can’t. And the more you nag Char­lie, the more stub­born he will be­come. You can en­cour­age him. Point out other styles of boots that will give him the “boost” in height he thinks he re­quires. But in the end, if you don’t ac­cept Char­lie just the way he is, he might end up giv­ing YOU the “boot.”

DEAR ABBY

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