Cultural, identity clashes tied to U.S. troop presence
Many in Japanese island linked to troops; many want bases out
CHATAN, Japan — These days, when Melissa Tomlinson describes her fraught relationship with the United States, she speaks in English, the language she once rejected.
She grew up on the island of Okinawa. Her mother was Japanese, and her father was an American who served in the U.S. Army, came to Okinawa, fell in love, fell out of love, then fell out of touch.
“I had plans to track him down, find him and punch him in the face,” said Tomlinson, 22. “I just wanted to figure out my identity.”
Tomlinson’s family tensions illustrate the complex cultural clashes that dominate the politics of Okinawa and, lately, relations between the United States and Japan as they cope with a rising China and a belligerent North Korea.
For more than 60 years since the end of World War II, Okinawans and U.S. troops stationed on nearby bases have developed deep, passionate and generation-spanning ties that complicate political and diplomatic debates about the future of the U.S. military on the island.
Those passions have recently claimed the head of one Japanese prime minister, Yukio Hatoyama, who had called for the Americans to be booted off Okinawa, and caused his successor to sharply tone down his party’s assertive stance toward the United States.
Many Okinawans demand closing the Futenma Marine Corps Air Station. U.S. officials, citing its proximity to North Korea, China and Southeast Asia, insist it remain in Okinawa.
The current plan, which Prime Minister Naoto Kan says his government will honor, calls for Futenma’s eventual relocation to a less populated region in the north of the island. Kan apologized last month for the “heavy burden” facing Okinawans.
Many residents of this Pacific island, which hosts more than half the 47,000 U.S. troops stationed in Japan, complain most commonly about the noise, congestion and crime. But emotional blood ties and cultural confusion amplify those concerns. Tormented by her identity, Tomlinson said she has tried to kill herself a couple times in the past two years.
Tomlinson said she struggles to convince herself — and others — that she is truly Japanese and Okinawan. She called her identity “ambiguous” and said her feeling of being an incomplete person has sometimes led to depression.
A generation of biracial Okinawans know about intercultural relationships. They know about romance and separations, child-support battles and reunions. They know that Japanese children refer to their biracial peers as “halfs,” and nowadays, they know of the local American Asian school, for biracial children, where those kids are taught to call themselves “doubles.”
Okinawa’s rates of single-parent households and divorce are twice Japan’s national average. At the American Asian school, 70 percent of the 80 students come from single-parent households, Principal Midori Thayer said.
“Unfortunately, some kids never live with their father, but they cannot lose their DNA,” she said. “Their body shows that they are not 100 percent Japanese.”
Denny Tamaki, 50, the local representative to the Japanese parliament, knows only that his father, a U.S. serviceman whom he has never met, was named William.
When William returned to the United States and Tamaki’s mother decided not to follow, she burned his photos and letters. When they moved to a new home, she didn’t give the American their new address. When Tamaki turned 10, his mother took him to a government office to officially change his first name to Yasuhiro.
Tamaki wants Futenma moved off Okinawa because “it feels like we’re living under occupation.” But he has a passion for American music and U.S. television shows.
A decade ago he tried to track down his father, with no luck. When his kids ask about their grandfather, he tells them that it would take the detectives from “CSI: Miami” to find him.
Tomlinson’s mother and father were married on Okinawa and then moved together to Georgia after his tour on the island ended in 1975. Tomlinson was born in Hinesville, Ga., while her father was stationed at Fort Stewart.
Tomlinson’s parents separated when she was 3; she returned to Okinawa in 1990 with her mother. Her father retained custody of their two older children, who stayed in the United States with him.
From her mother, Tomlinson had heard only nasty tales about her father, who was once stationed at the Army’s Torii base. After her junior year in college in spring 2009, she decided to try to find him and left school for a time.
In March, her U.S. military ID card, a privilege from the relationship, was expiring. The Army passed along her father’s address. She emailed him, asking for him to sign the required forms for a new ID.
Weeks later, she heard back from the father who hadn’t seen her since she was 3.
“Hi Melissa, Hearing from you, to say the least, came as quite a shock,” he wrote. “I was not aware that you could speak English let alone read or write it. The last time we had contact, and I am sure you do not remember it, you could only speak Japanese. Trying to bridge the gap with words after all this time would be futile. In life sometimes we have to make decisions that we don’t know if they are right or not, but we have to live with them.”
Tomlinson reread the e-mail. She discussed it with friends and they parsed the words. Their relationship continued, e-mail by e-mail, and she learned that he missed Okinawa and that he says he has thought about her every day.
For all these years, he wrote, he avoided contact because he didn’t want her to be torn between parents. “It would have made your life miserable,” he wrote.
Denny Tamaki, a Japanese lawmaker who has never met his father, a U.S. serviceman, wants to move a U.S. base off Okinawa.