Snooping violates more than loved one’s privacy
While I’m away, readers give the advice. On snooping: I’ve seen so many letters about reading a significant other’s texts or emails. I’ve even read a few columns that suggested a cheater who has promised to reform should give their spouse or partner all their passwords.
What never seems to come up is that you are also violating the privacy of everyone who writes to the person whose accounts are now open books. It’s something snoopers should think about when they go onto an email account or phone. They’re not just violating their partner’s privacy, they also may find information that a perfectly innocent person never wanted to share with them. — E. On dealing with a loved one’s engagement to an abusive mate:
Seeing a loved one get involved with an abusive partner can be incredibly difficult, especially if you see the loved one ignore obvious and repeated warning signs. If they’ve been together a long time, his sense of reality might be even more skewed than he lets on.
I speak from experience. I was engaged to a woman who was abusive and it took the continued efforts of friends and loved ones to see what I was too ashamed to recognize.
A victim of abuse is going to need someone to keep his sense of reality and self, particularly when she really starts to sink her claws into him. I am so thankful to friends and family who cared enough and helped me get my life back. — D. On deciding whether to have children:
When I was a newlywed, my mom gave me this advice: “If you cannot imagine yourself having a happy future without, have a child. If you can in any way see yourself living happily without, do not.”
After 36 years of mothering, here’s what I think: If I could have known how wonderful the good is, I would have started 10 years earlier and had twice as many. If I could have known how awful the bad is, I would not have had any.
Corb Lund will perform this weekend at Antone’s.