Face-to-face meet­ing threat­ens new ro­mance

Austin American-Statesman - - AUSTIN 360 LIFE - Jeanne Phillips Dear Abby

Dear Abby: I recently en­rolled in an in­ter­net dat­ing site, and have been cy­ber-chat­ting with a very sweet gen­tle­man. I am also 62 years young. My prob­lem is I’m bor­der­line obese, have gray hair, a few wrin­kles and some den­tal prob­lems. It’s the rea­son I don’t post pho­tos of my­self.

Some­day, he may want to meet face-to-face, and I am more pet­ri­fied than 2,000-year-old wood! He sounds and speaks so well — soft and gen­tle. My heart has but­ter­fly-wing feel­ings, not the head-over­heels emo­tions I had when I first met my late hus­band. Should I keep tex­ting this gen­tle­man, or just fade away from him? — Is Beauty More Than Skin Deep?

Dear Skin Deep: Keep tex­ting him, of course! Noth­ing ven­tured, noth­ing gained, and re­mem­ber, beauty is in the eye of the be­holder. That said, if your weight and den­tal prob­lems are af­fect­ing your self­es­teem, per­haps it’s time you dealt with them rather than use them as an ex­cuse to cut and run.

Dear Abby: I have been in a re­la­tion­ship with a won­der­ful man for the last year and a half. He is good to me and good to my 11-year-old daugh­ter.

Recently, a man I have known for 40 years — but have been in and out of touch with — ap­peared back in my life. He was my first kiss at 6, and there were many un­re­solved feel­ings that I felt needed ex­plor­ing. My daugh­ter caught on and told me if I gave up my cur­rent re­la­tion­ship she would never for­give me, so I ended the re­la­tion­ship with my old friend, which left him with bit­ter feel­ings. Did I do the right thing? — Bit­ter Feel­ings

Dear Bit­ter: Be­cause you felt it was ap­pro­pri­ate to al­low an 11-year-old to dic­tate your fu­ture, then yes, I sup­pose you did the right thing. In any case, it’s a lit­tle late to sec­ond guess your­self now.

Dear Abby: This year I have the op­por­tu­nity to travel to Europe with some friends. One of them, how­ever, has the ten­dency to burp loudly when we are in pub­lic. She of­ten does it at restau­rants or other sit-down ar­eas. I have tried telling her it’s rude and dis­re­spect­ful, but she doesn’t care.

I don’t want to go to Europe and have her burp­ing in front of other peo­ple. I don’t want to be la­beled as a dis­re­spect­ful tourist be­cause of her. Is there any­thing I can say to her? Or is this a prob­lem that I shouldn’t get in­volved with? — Em­bar­rassed Friend

Dear Friend: Could your friend have a med­i­cal prob­lem that causes her to burp? If so, that may be why it hap­pens and you shouldn’t crit­i­cize her for it. How­ever, if that’s not the case, be­cause her be­hav­ior causes you em­bar­rass­ment, ei­ther re­think trav­el­ing with her or make sure you sit far away from her in pub­lic places.

To or­der “How to Write Let­ters for All Oc­ca­sions,” send your name and mail­ing ad­dress, plus check or money or­der for $7 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby — Let­ter Book­let, P.O. Box 447, Mount Mor­ris, IL 610540447. Ship­ping and han­dling are in­cluded in the price.

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