DeLoach knew her single status had no bearing on her mothering skills, but she wondered if it would lower her adoption odds. When she met with agencies, she said some employees told her she might wait longer for a birth parent to select her. “The waiting time was considerably higher for singles,” she said.
Agencies might consider different aspects of marital status. At The Cradle, Linda Hageman, executive director of adoption services, said factors they evaluate include past marriages and previous challenges. “We really want to understand what contributed to the breakup of the marriage, because what we’re looking for are families who can provide stable, loving, nurturing homes.”