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Guy’s Vegas partying worries his girlfriend

- DEAR ABBY

Dear Abby: My boyfriend of two years will be attending a bachelor party in Las Vegas. We’ve never had any issues of infidelity, yet I can’t help but feel anxious about his upcoming trip.

I know the scene that exists in Vegas— I’m in my mid- 20s, and I enjoyed my trips there when I was younger and single.

I’m worried about him and his friends going to strip clubs, topless pool parties, etc. I don’t mind him enjoying a trip and going out with the boys, but I think attending an event with nudity is disrespect­ful to the other person when you’re in a long- term, serious relationsh­ip.

I don’t want him to feel he has to tell his friends he can’t go to those things. What are your thoughts on this?

What Happens In Vegas ...

Dear What Happens In Vegas: You and your boyfriend are both adults. Viewing topless entertainm­ent or attending a topless pool party is not infidelity. If he hasn’t given you any reason to worry so far, give him the benefit of the doubt.

P. S. By the way, I have heard that some bacheloret­te parties can be equally wild. Do you plan to swear off them yourself?

Dear Abby: My wife hates Facebook. She has always hated it and never signed up. I have had an account since the site began and maintain many connection­s with friends, family members who live far away, old teachers— even my in- laws.

I don’t discuss it with my wife much because it makes her angry.

I’m not constantly on it, and it’s not like I’m doing anything bad. But if she hears from a friend about a funny or insightful comment I made on Facebook, we end up getting into a huge argument because she insists I have to delete my account. The argument always ends with her saying, “You will delete it because I hate it!”

I don’t want to delete my Facebook page, and I hate arguing with my wife. What should I do?

“Likes” Facebook

Dear “Likes” Facebook: Try to get to the bottom of why she finds your staying in touch with these people threatenin­g because it appears you married someone who is very controllin­g. She is your spouse, not your jailer. If you want to participat­e in social media, continue to do so.

Although you didn’t mention it, I can’t help but wonder if her jealousy and possessive­ness have affected other areas of your life. If that’s the case, talk about it with a licensed marriage and family therapist before it drives the two of you apart. If she won’t go with you, go alone.

Dear Abby: I’m a doctor. I give free medical advice to my cousin and her mother several times a month and have for quite some time now. I do it free of charge because we are family and there’s a close bond between us.

My cousin works in marketing, so I asked her if she could help me design my presentati­on card. She replied that shewould giveme three designs to choose from, and itwould cost roughly $ 100. I feel it’s wrong for her to charge me for her service because I’ve never charged her.

Free Of Charge in California

Dear Free Of Charge: It’s possible your cousin was asking to be reimbursed for the cost of the materials involved in creating the cards for you. Before you allow yourself to get into a snit, perhaps you should clarify exactly what you would be paying for.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at dearabby. com or P. O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

I’m worried about him and his friends going to strip clubs, topless pool parties, etc.

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