Keep it down down there!

Daily Freeman (Kingston, NY) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - An­nie Lane

I live in a large city with high real es­tate prices. This has pre­vented me from buy­ing my own home, so I re­side in an apart­ment. I have done so for the ma­jor­ity of my adult life. All of my pre­vi­ous ex­pe­ri­ences have been pleas­ant. How­ever, the most re­cent apart­ment com­plex I moved to has very thin walls, and as a re­sult, I can hear just about every­thing that goes on in my neigh­bors’ apart­ments.

A new neigh­bor re­cently moved to the apart­ment be­low me, and I can hear every­thing that goes on down there. Our build­ing has a strict rule stat­ing that there should be no loud noise be­tween the hours of 9 p.m. and 9 a.m. Un­for­tu­nately, my down­stairs neigh­bor seems to be a night owl, and I have been wo­ken up on nu­mer­ous oc­ca­sions at 2 in the morn­ing by her par­ty­ing and loud talk­ing. I have spo­ken to my land­lord twice about this, and he has as­sured me that he has spo­ken to her. How­ever, this be­hav­ior con­tin­ues to hap­pen.

I un­der­stand that you have to choose your bat­tles as an apart­ment dweller; how­ever, this neigh­bor’s com­plete dis­re­gard of the apart­ment rules has my blood boil­ing. I have in­vested in earplugs, and a kind co­worker gave me a whitenoise ma­chine that she was not us­ing. Us­ing th­ese tools has helped me, but the fact re­mains that this wo­man seems to have no re­gard for any­one. I feel com­pletely dis­re­spected, and it makes me an­gry that she is keep­ing me awake.

Mov­ing is not an op­tion for me right now, so I be­lieve I am do­ing the only thing I can do by keep­ing the land­lord aware of this be­hav­ior.

An­nie, I am not re­ally ask­ing for your ad­vice. I am ask­ing you to please print this let­ter as a pub­lic ser­vice and a re­minder to all apart­ment res­i­dents to re­mem­ber that there are oth­ers in close range who de­serve con­sid­er­a­tion. I think this will help nu­mer­ous in­di­vid­u­als who are in my sit­u­a­tion. Thank you for let­ting me vent. — Blood Has Boiled Over

Talk to your neigh­bor. It’s pos­si­ble your land­lord never ac­tu­ally talked to her in the first place. And even if he did, he may be out of sight, out of mind as far as she’s con­cerned.

Stop by for a neigh­borly chat, and ask this wo­man to keep it down. Once she sees the face — and ma­jor un­der-eye cir­cles — of the per­son she’s keep­ing up ev­ery night, it ought to be harder for her to party on as if no one out­side her four pa­per-thin walls ex­ists.

It’s been a few days, but I find I just can’t let pass how strongly I disagree with your re­ply to “On Clear­ance,” the girl whose boyfriend got free con­cert tick­ets for her birthday. You ad­vised her to let her boyfriend know that she does not con­sider them a present be­cause he didn’t have to pay for them. I would have told her to get over her­self — that if the cost of a gift is most im­por­tant to her, she should re­think her val­ues. She writes that she is not ma­te­ri­al­is­tic, but maybe she needs to check that def­i­ni­tion.

Also, she can’t know what this “cost” him. He lis­tened to her in­ter­ests and de­sires. He ac­tu­ally gave thought to how he could ful­fill one of those de­sires. He put him­self out there for her and asked his friend for the fa­vor. He was her knight in shin­ing ar­mor. He plans to es­cort her and try to see to it that she en­joys her­self.

If I could ad­vise him, I’d tell him, “Run!” He would be for­tu­nate to find out her true, only-in­ter­ested-in-the-almighty­dol­lar na­ture be­fore en­ter­ing into any long-term re­la­tion­ship. There are plenty of young ladies out there who would thank their lucky stars for such a thought­ful beau.

— Florida Reader

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