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Daily Freeman (Kingston, NY) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - An­nie Lane

My par­ents split up 20 years ago, and my dad has never stayed in great con­tact. I’m now en­gaged, and my fi­ance and I are de­sign­ing the in­vi­ta­tions. He thinks we should fol­low the stan­dard wed­ding in­vi­ta­tion word­ing, with my par­ents’ names listed at the top: “Mr. and Mrs. X would like you to cel­e­brate the mar­riage,” etc. Well, first off, they have two dif­fer­ent last names, so it would have to be “Mr. X and Ms. Y.” But se­condly, it all just seems so for­mal and stuffy to me. We’ve agreed we want our wed­ding to be a more down-to-earth cel­e­bra­tion. What do you think? — Mod­ern Bride

DEAR MOD­ERN » Fol­low­ing the trend in re­cent years to­ward less for­mal wed­dings, it’s fairly com­mon for in­vi­ta­tions to sim­ply state “Please join us to cel­e­brate the mar­riage of (bride) and (groom),” without men­tion­ing par­ents at all. You can find ex­am­ples of that style on­line. Best wishes to you both.

DEAR AN­NIE » I read with in­ter­est a let­ter you re­cently pub­lished about hear­ing loss. The let­ter writer sug­gested con­tact­ing the Hear­ing Loss As­so­ci­a­tion of Amer­ica for more in­for­ma­tion. I am a se­nior cit­i­zen with sub­stan­tial high-fre­quency hear­ing loss, for which I have used hear­ing aids for sev­eral years. With the ag­ing of the pop­u­la­tion, such hear­ing loss can be ex­pected to be­come more com­mon.

When I watch TV, the aids help some, and a wire­less speaker by my chair helps some more. How­ever, there are pro­grams with which the speak­ers are not com­pre­hen­si­ble. News pro­grams, on which it’s usu­ally the case that one per­son speaks di­rectly to the au­di­ence, are no prob­lem, but talk shows, on which it’s com­mon for sev­eral speak­ers to try to speak at once, and dramatic pro­grams on which the ac­tors mum­ble to sound “nat­u­ral” and there is con­sid­er­able back­ground noise are dif­fi­cult to un­der­stand. Even my wife, who has nor­mal hear­ing, some­times asks, “What did they say?”

TV shows and movies have rat­ings and awards for the best and worst show in a va­ri­ety of cat­e­gories. I would like to sug­gest that they be rated for their au­di­bil­ity. Such rat­ings should en­cour­age pro­duc­ers to pay more at­ten­tion to how well the speech in their pro­grams can be un­der­stood. Per­haps you, your read­ers and the Hear­ing Loss As­so­ci­a­tion of Amer­ica could pro­mote the de­vel­op­ment of such rat­ings. — Could You Re­peat

That? that it’s frus­trat­ing when mul­ti­ple peo­ple talk at once, an an­noy­ing trend on mod­ern talk shows. Do you use closed cap­tion­ing? Ac­cord­ing to the Fed­eral Com­mu­ni­ca­tions Com­mis­sion, “Congress re­quires video pro­gram­ming dis­trib­u­tors — ca­ble op­er­a­tors, broad­cast­ers, satel­lite dis­trib­u­tors and other multi-chan­nel video pro­gram­ming dis­trib­u­tors — to close caption their TV pro­grams.” Look for the op­tion on your TV re­mote, or call your ca­ble provider for as­sis­tance.

DEAR AN­NIE » Re­cently, you pub­lished a let­ter from a gen­tle­man who does not like servers ask­ing him whether he wants change. A few days later, I was in a restau­rant, and a woman at the next ta­ble was set­tling her bill. When the server came back to get her pay­ment — and be­fore the server said any­thing — the woman handed the server the check and her cash and, with a big smile, said to the server, “No need to bring any change.” What a re­mark­ably sim­ple way to han­dle this!

Con­versely, if the diner does want change, he can hand the server his money and say, “Please bring me change.” Some­times be­ing a lit­tle proac­tive can make a world of dif­fer­ence. DEAR RE­PEAT » I agree

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