No drama needed

Daily Freeman (Kingston, NY) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - An­nie Lane Edited by Rich Nor­ris and Joyce Ni­chols Lewis By Jef­frey Wech­sler ©2016 Tri­bune Con­tent Agency, LLC

Both my wife and I work all day, she as a po­lice of­fi­cer and I as an ac­coun­tant. When we get home, we eat din­ner to­gether and then sit in front of the TV for a lit­tle down time. The prob­lem is that what she wants to watch to un­wind is very dif­fer­ent from what I want to watch to un­wind.

She loves short funny shows, such as “Two and a Half Men” and “How I Met Your Mother.” I, on the other hand, love dra­mas. My fa­vorites are “Home­land” and “Game of Thrones.”

Ev­ery night, I sit on the couch look­ing for­ward to one of my fa­vorite shows, and she in­sists that we watch one of hers. She says that my shows are too se­ri­ous and that be­ing a po­lice of­fi­cer, she sees se­ri­ous stuff ev­ery day and she just wants to laugh. She has a point, but I’d still like to watch my own stuff. I have been giv­ing her her way lately, but I am start­ing to feel re­sent­ful.

— Miss­ing the Drama

Sorry, but there’s not much drama in my re­sponse, as this has an easy so­lu­tion. Just com­pro­mise. Al­ter­nate nights. You pick one night’s pro­gram­ming; she picks the next.

If you both re­ally can’t stand watch­ing each other’s shows, you could in­vest in a second TV or, bet­ter yet, head to the li­brary. There you’ll find plenty of great sto­ries (such as the nov­els on which “Game of Thrones” is based). You could get lost in an epic book while she de-stresses with some com­edy — worlds away but hap­pily to­gether.

I met “Meghan” at our chil­dren’s school five years ago, and we’ve been close friends ever since. When we met, she had just fin­ished treat­ment for stage 1 breast can­cer, and since then, she has been can­cer-free.

The other day, she told me she was un­able to work with me on our kids’ school project be­cause she had a doc­tor’s ap­point­ment. She said it was just a rou­tine thing but was very vague about it, and I could tell she didn’t want to talk about it. I be­gan to worry that some­thing was wrong, and at the same time, I felt hurt that if some­thing was wrong, she should have wanted to share it with me. — Wor­ried for My Friend

Have pa­tience. For all you know right now, it re­ally is just a rou­tine checkup, and I hope that’s the case. But in the event that it’s not, don’t be of­fended that Meghan didn’t reach out to you im­me­di­ately. Health is an in­cred­i­bly per­sonal thing. Part of be­ing a good friend means al­low­ing her the time and space she needs to process things, trust­ing that she will come to you when she’s ready. In the mean­time, be un­der­stand­ing, em­pa­thetic and the world’s best lis­tener. That’s how you can let her know you’ll be there when she’s ready to talk.

I want to write in re­sponse to “A Wy­oming Teacher,” who does not feel teach­ers should be ex­pected to write thank-you notes to stu­dents for gifts.

I feel that part of my job as a teacher is to teach stu­dents so­cial norms and con­ven­tions. I be­lieve in writ­ing and mail­ing thank-you notes for stu­dents’ gifts, even the half-used bot­tle of nail pol­ish one of my second-graders gave me. Chil­dren love get­ting mail, and they learn from ex­am­ple.

ACROSS

1 Touch off 6 Elec­tri­cal unit 9 What wind en­sem­bles usu­ally tune to 14 Ac­tress Anouk whose last name means “beloved” 15 Place for graz­ing 16 Ap­pre­cia­tive cry 17 Trav­e­loc­ity ad

fig­ure 18 “Ho­tel du __”: Anita Brookner novel 19 Still 20 Fab­u­lous writer? 21 Roth __ 22 Washer func­tion 23 Pro­duc­tion

ca­pac­ity re­view 26 Re­fused 29 Very deep places 33 Shore soarer 34 Belly­ach­ers 38 Ex­ces­sively 39 Work (on), as

9-Down 41 “__ Ro­mance”:

Jerome Kern song 42 TV princess 43 Radamès’ love 44 Cover let­ter

let­ters 45 Far from bold 46 Pen­tax

com­peti­tor 48 Choles­terol

ini­tials 49 Hides 50 “U slay me!” 51 Cho­rus syl­la­ble 52 Trav­el­ers’ bus. 53 Teddy’s Mount Rush­more neigh­bor 55 Kitchen

ap­pli­ance 58 In­fla­tion fig. 61 Of­fice fas­ten­ers 64 Like bat­tle­ships 65 Get by the sen­try 66 Looked in­side, in

a way 67 Show the ropes

DOWN

1 It’s a long story 2 Floor­ing wood 3 “The Cookie Never Crum­bles” co-au­thor Wally 4 Al­ter the shape of 5 Cus­tody 6 Kukla co­hort 7 With 36-Down, what you can’t do re­gard­ing this puz­zle’s cir­cled let­ters 8 Por­tuguese ter­ri­tory un­til 1999 9 Pit­mas­ter’s

of­fer­ing 10 Like dessert

wines 11 “... this skull has __ in the earth ... ”: Ham­let 12 Ur­ban rtes. 13 Mem­ber­ship

drive gift 24 “The Thin Man”

role 25 Have what it

takes 26 “The Gold­bergs”

ac­tor Ge­orge 27 Links leg­end,

fa­mil­iarly 28 Con­flicted 30 Clas­sic golf shoe

fea­ture 31 “Haystacks”

se­ries pain­ter 32 Over­charges 35 “That re­ally

de­pressed me” 36 See 7-Down ... or, with “a,” what you can see in this puz­zle’s cir­cled let­ters 37 Iso­lated

com­mu­ni­ties 40 City south of Fort

Worth 42 Mag­neto’s

en­e­mies 47 Sharer of the 2007

No­bel Peace Prize

AN­SWER TO PRE­VI­OUS PUZ­ZLE: xworded­i­tor@aol.com 49 One of a grip­ping

tool pair 53 Tro­jan War

hero 54 “Hamilton” role 56 Mocked 57 Puz­zle­maker

Ru­bik 59 Go around 60 Hall & Oates’

“Say It __ So” 62 Son 63 My __, Viet­nam

Sorry, but there’s not much drama in my re­sponse, as this has an easy so­lu­tion. Just com­pro­mise.

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