Aries (March 21-April 19): Are you just making the best of the way things are turning out or are things really turning out for the best? It’s hard to say, because with your stellar attitude you continually spot opportunity and turn potential into reality. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Nothing in life is created apart from others. The extent to which you depend on your crew is pretty remarkable today, and even more remarkable is the way they meet and then exceed your highest expectations. Gemini (May 21-June 21): It’s the same way with people as it is with fruit: When they’re squeezed, you find out what kind of juice is inside. The pressure is on today and this will work in your favor as people find out the powerful potion of zesty vitality you’re made of. Cancer (June 22-July 22): You’re in an extraordinarily selfless mood today and anyone lucky enough to join forces with you will experience your loyalty. Their interests will become your interests, their goals your project, their obstacles your mission. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): The bad news is that you are definitely your own worst enemy. The good news is that you have no others today. So reason with yourself. Go easier. Call off the fight if you can. If not, do try and win yourself over. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): On whom can you depend? As emotionally close as you may feel to someone, practical matters must be assessed in practical terms. Reassess your support system, based on the evidence of recent behavior. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Your reputation stirs up a sense of wonder, anticipation and expectation. What do they know about you before you enter the room? How can you tweak this early information to be seen in the best light? Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): This project could drag on for years, or it could be done in a few weeks. Go for the short route. Get more people involved, invest more money and concentrate more time. The power of momentum is on your side. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Some things can’t be bought. What you need today can be. However, the greater the emotional connection is for those involved in making it happen, the smaller the dollar amount will be needed to fund the effort. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): To receive help you don’t need only keeps you from working at the level that will allow you to attract the help you do need to grow. The more you can do to become self-sufficient, the better. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): There will be something of a competition involved in acquiring today’s goods. It will boil down to who got there first and how aggressively this person tries to pursue the spoils. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): If you didn’t set up your deal in the early stages of the plan, now that you’re at the end there’s a tough decision to be made about how to split up the credit and the profit.
To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/author/ holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> I’m an educated, attractive 24-year-old woman who hasn’t dated much. I’m eager to break out of my shell and start putting myself out there, but I’m afraid my shyness may make me unapproachable.
How do I strike up a pleasant conversation with a cute guy at the gym or a friendly customer at work? It looks easy in the movies, but this is real life. I don’t want my awkwardness to hold me back.
Have you written anything about this? Can you give me some tips on how I can bring myself to be sociable? — Perpetual novice in
DEAR NOVICE >> Gladly. Start today by making a point of smiling and saying hello to everyone. It’s friendly and welcoming.
At the gym, ask other members about their routine or the machines they’re using. When greeting a customer, lead off with a friendly remark or a compliment. I have met very few people who don’t like receiving one, as long as it’s sincere. (“Nice shirt,” “Nice cellphone,” etc.)
If you freeze up, keep in mind that the majority of people have the same insecurities that you do. My booklet “How to Be Popular” contains many useful tips for polishing social skills for people of all ages. It can be ordered by sending your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $7 (U.S. funds), to Dear Abby Popularity Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. Shipping and handling are included in the price. Please allow four to six weeks for delivery. A surefire way to contribute in any social situation is to be wellinformed about what’s going on in the world. You do not have to be an authority on every subject.
Good conversationalists are interested in what others have to say rather than feel pressured to fill the air with the sound of their own voices. And remember: Most people can concentrate on only one thing at a time. So forget about yourself and concentrate on the OTHER person. Ask about what he or she is interested in. If you try it, you’ll find that it works.
DEAR ABBY >> My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We have good conversations, and he would give me the world if I asked him to. He’s kind, gentle and helps me out financially. He opens the car door, cooks and cleans. Basically, he is what every woman wants.
But ... he is lacking in the sex department. He had a groin injury as a child, and later, as an adult, he reinjured “it.” Viagra doesn’t help. He apologizes when sex lasts less than five or 10 minutes. Sometimes “it” doesn’t work for a week or two.
He says he loves me and wants to marry me. But I know I wouldn’t be completely happy if I married him. On the other hand, I’m afraid to lose such a good man. I don’t want to cheat on him, which is what he said most of his girlfriends have done in the past. What should I do?
— Great guy, but —
DEAR G.G.B. >> What you should do is be honest with your boyfriend. Tell him it’s time for him to consult a urologist, if he hasn’t already, because there may be medical help for this. If there is, your problem is solved. If there isn’t, then you will have to prioritize what’s really important to you in a life partner.
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