Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dear Abby

Aries (March 21-April 19): Are you just mak­ing the best of the way things are turn­ing out or are things re­ally turn­ing out for the best? It’s hard to say, be­cause with your stel­lar at­ti­tude you con­tin­u­ally spot op­por­tu­nity and turn po­ten­tial into re­al­ity. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Noth­ing in life is cre­ated apart from oth­ers. The ex­tent to which you de­pend on your crew is pretty re­mark­able to­day, and even more re­mark­able is the way they meet and then ex­ceed your high­est ex­pec­ta­tions. Gemini (May 21-June 21): It’s the same way with peo­ple as it is with fruit: When they’re squeezed, you find out what kind of juice is inside. The pres­sure is on to­day and this will work in your fa­vor as peo­ple find out the pow­er­ful po­tion of zesty vi­tal­ity you’re made of. Can­cer (June 22-July 22): You’re in an ex­traor­di­nar­ily self­less mood to­day and any­one lucky enough to join forces with you will ex­pe­ri­ence your loy­alty. Their in­ter­ests will be­come your in­ter­ests, their goals your pro­ject, their ob­sta­cles your mis­sion. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): The bad news is that you are def­i­nitely your own worst en­emy. The good news is that you have no oth­ers to­day. So rea­son with your­self. Go eas­ier. Call off the fight if you can. If not, do try and win your­self over. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): On whom can you de­pend? As emo­tion­ally close as you may feel to some­one, prac­ti­cal mat­ters must be as­sessed in prac­ti­cal terms. Re­assess your sup­port sys­tem, based on the ev­i­dence of re­cent be­hav­ior. Li­bra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Your rep­u­ta­tion stirs up a sense of won­der, an­tic­i­pa­tion and ex­pec­ta­tion. What do they know about you be­fore you en­ter the room? How can you tweak this early in­for­ma­tion to be seen in the best light? Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): This pro­ject could drag on for years, or it could be done in a few weeks. Go for the short route. Get more peo­ple in­volved, in­vest more money and con­cen­trate more time. The power of mo­men­tum is on your side. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Some things can’t be bought. What you need to­day can be. How­ever, the greater the emo­tional con­nec­tion is for those in­volved in mak­ing it hap­pen, the smaller the dol­lar amount will be needed to fund the ef­fort. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): To re­ceive help you don’t need only keeps you from work­ing at the level that will al­low you to at­tract the help you do need to grow. The more you can do to be­come self-suf­fi­cient, the bet­ter. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): There will be some­thing of a com­pe­ti­tion in­volved in ac­quir­ing to­day’s goods. It will boil down to who got there first and how ag­gres­sively this per­son tries to pur­sue the spoils. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): If you didn’t set up your deal in the early stages of the plan, now that you’re at the end there’s a tough de­ci­sion to be made about how to split up the credit and the profit.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com/au­thor/ hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> I’m an ed­u­cated, at­trac­tive 24-year-old woman who hasn’t dated much. I’m ea­ger to break out of my shell and start putting my­self out there, but I’m afraid my shy­ness may make me un­ap­proach­able.

How do I strike up a pleas­ant con­ver­sa­tion with a cute guy at the gym or a friendly cus­tomer at work? It looks easy in the movies, but this is real life. I don’t want my awk­ward­ness to hold me back.

Have you writ­ten any­thing about this? Can you give me some tips on how I can bring my­self to be so­cia­ble? — Per­pet­ual novice in


DEAR NOVICE >> Gladly. Start to­day by mak­ing a point of smil­ing and say­ing hello to ev­ery­one. It’s friendly and wel­com­ing.

At the gym, ask other mem­bers about their rou­tine or the ma­chines they’re us­ing. When greet­ing a cus­tomer, lead off with a friendly re­mark or a com­pli­ment. I have met very few peo­ple who don’t like re­ceiv­ing one, as long as it’s sin­cere. (“Nice shirt,” “Nice cell­phone,” etc.)

If you freeze up, keep in mind that the ma­jor­ity of peo­ple have the same in­se­cu­ri­ties that you do. My book­let “How to Be Pop­u­lar” con­tains many use­ful tips for pol­ish­ing so­cial skills for peo­ple of all ages. It can be or­dered by send­ing your name and mail­ing ad­dress, plus check or money or­der for $7 (U.S. funds), to Dear Abby Pop­u­lar­ity Book­let, P.O. Box 447, Mount Mor­ris, IL 61054-0447. Ship­ping and han­dling are in­cluded in the price. Please al­low four to six weeks for de­liv­ery. A sure­fire way to con­trib­ute in any so­cial sit­u­a­tion is to be wellinformed about what’s go­ing on in the world. You do not have to be an author­ity on every sub­ject.

Good con­ver­sa­tion­al­ists are in­ter­ested in what oth­ers have to say rather than feel pres­sured to fill the air with the sound of their own voices. And re­mem­ber: Most peo­ple can con­cen­trate on only one thing at a time. So for­get about your­self and con­cen­trate on the OTHER per­son. Ask about what he or she is in­ter­ested in. If you try it, you’ll find that it works.

DEAR ABBY >> My boyfriend and I have been to­gether for two years. We have good con­ver­sa­tions, and he would give me the world if I asked him to. He’s kind, gen­tle and helps me out fi­nan­cially. He opens the car door, cooks and cleans. Ba­si­cally, he is what every woman wants.

But ... he is lack­ing in the sex depart­ment. He had a groin in­jury as a child, and later, as an adult, he rein­jured “it.” Vi­a­gra doesn’t help. He apol­o­gizes when sex lasts less than five or 10 min­utes. Some­times “it” doesn’t work for a week or two.

He says he loves me and wants to marry me. But I know I wouldn’t be com­pletely happy if I mar­ried him. On the other hand, I’m afraid to lose such a good man. I don’t want to cheat on him, which is what he said most of his girl­friends have done in the past. What should I do?

— Great guy, but —

DEAR G.G.B. >> What you should do is be hon­est with your boyfriend. Tell him it’s time for him to con­sult a urol­o­gist, if he hasn’t al­ready, be­cause there may be med­i­cal help for this. If there is, your prob­lem is solved. If there isn’t, then you will have to pri­or­i­tize what’s re­ally im­por­tant to you in a life part­ner.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.Dear­Abby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

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