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Aries (March 21-April 19): You can’t trust a crowd. Do not au­to­mat­i­cally as­sume that the oth­ers stand­ing in a long line for the ex­cit­ing thing have any more in­for­ma­tion than you do. They may be in that line just be­cause ev­ery­one seems to be. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Love will have some of the mys­te­ri­ous el­e­ments of a sus­pense drama. What’s next? Well, you’ll find out when you be­come the ac­tive hero in this story, ready to in­ves­ti­gate, con­front and make things hap­pen. Gemini (May 21-June 21): Could you fin­ish the whole thing by your­self? Yes. Ev­ery last bit. Should you? No. Not at all. That is, un­less you want the oth­ers to feel left out, in­ad­e­quate and un­wanted. Have a heart; share ev­ery­thing, es­pe­cially the work. Can­cer (June 22-July 22): You’ll be deal­ing in is­sues of moral­ity. Just re­mem­ber that char­ac­ter is destiny. What you do to change your life will re­fine your char­ac­ter and what you do to re­fine your char­ac­ter will change your life. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): You feel com­pelled to fig­ure out how a cer­tain in­ter­est­ing per­son works — to learn what he or she wants and needs. Where are you in this? Hon­estly, are you set­ting up a code­pen­dent dy­namic here? Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): The more you love, the more will­ing you are to suf­fer for love. There have been times, in fact, when suf­fer­ing and love were syn­ony­mous. And now for some­thing rad­i­cally dif­fer­ent — tem­per­ate, easy­go­ing sta­bil­ity. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): In work­ing with oth­ers you’ll be most agree­able, not the least bit sub­mis­sive. Any­one who seems to re­quire your sub­mis­sion needs to be shut down po­litely, suc­cinctly, im­me­di­ately. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): What is harder than climb­ing moun­tains, run­ning miles and ac­com­plish­ing great things? Get­ting out of a rut. It will be so worth­while to in­vest in some­thing to get you un­stuck. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Your com­mu­ni­ca­tion with the world is hap­pen­ing on many lev­els. As you con­nect to peo­ple and things you’ll be­come a con­duit. You’ll pro­vide a path for what is needed to get to those who need it. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Spend­ing time with new faces, busi­ness as­so­ciates and any­one con­nected with your aims is im­por­tant. Spend­ing time with loved ones is more im­por­tant. Pri­or­i­tize to pre­serve key re­la­tion­ships. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): By be­ing the bridge, pro­vid­ing the con­nec­tion, trans­lat­ing the in­for­ma­tion, you’re able to give what you do not pos­sess. Be­cause you help one side un­der­stand the other, you give to each with no loss to your­self. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): This is no time to be cheap with your­self. If the ef­fect that you’re go­ing for doesn’t work, it could still lead to the next thing that will solve the prob­lem and so much more. Stay op­ti­mistic.

To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com/author/ holiday-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> I am a bi­sex­ual fe­male col­lege grad­u­ate liv­ing at home, and an only child. I have had one sex­ual en­counter with a woman but never a re­la­tion­ship. I have, how­ever, had re­la­tion­ships with men.

I came out to my mother when I was a teenager. She didn’t be­lieve me, but did say that she would not men­tion it to my other par­ents or fam­ily mem­bers. (I have two step­par­ents as both bi­o­log­i­cal par­ents re­mar­ried.)

I am con­sid­er­ing — if I find a woman to go on a date with/be with — pur­su­ing a les­bian re­la­tion­ship. How­ever, I am not fi­nan­cially in­de­pen­dent and won’t be for many years. My prob­lem is I’m afraid to do it while I am liv­ing at home. My cousins, friends and ex-boyfriends all know, just not my par­ents, grand­par­ents, aunts, etc. Do I try for my own hap­pi­ness and hope for the best, or de­fer my hap­pi­ness and only date men?

— Scared to be who I am

DEAR SCARED >> You are no longer a teenager; you’re an adult now. You should be en­ti­tled to have the kind of re­la­tion­ship with which you are most com­fort­able. If your cousins know about the fact that you are bi­sex­ual, the chances are that so do their par­ents. How­ever, if com­ing out now would mean that you would be out on the street, I’m ad­vis­ing you to keep your mouth shut and bide your time un­til you are in­de­pen­dent.

DEAR ABBY >> My fam­ily and I are all trav­el­ers. Re­cently, some is­sues have arisen with them about the way they re­gard my mode of travel. They pre­fer fly­ing ver­sus driv­ing. I don’t. Be­cause of my size.

I can’t fit into an air­plane seat and buckle the seat belt with­out an ex­ten­der. I’m al­ways wor­ried that I’ll be forced to buy an ex­tra seat or won’t be al­lowed to fly be­cause of my weight, and it is stress­ful. I have tried for years to lose weight, but have got­ten only to the point where I’m main­tain­ing my weight.

I fit com­fort­ably in my car. I can get the seat belt buck­led, and I don’t have to in­con­ve­nience other pas­sen­gers.

My fam­ily is now try­ing to dis­cour­age me from tak­ing fu­ture trips with them be­cause I won’t fly. They claim it’s be­cause I’m sin­gle and nor­mally travel by my­self. I’m in my mid-30s and have trav­eled solo for years. Any sugges­tions on how to help them un­der­stand my choice? — Frus­trated solo heavy


DEAR FRUS­TRATED >> Your fam­ily may be do­ing this in an at­tempt to “en­cour­age” you to work harder at los­ing weight. How­ever, if you are more com­fort­able trav­el­ing by car, then that’s what you should be do­ing.

DEAR ABBY >> We have a co­worker who has been in­ter­net dat­ing. She con­stantly tells her co-work­ers how hor­ri­ble the men are and says the same thing about the dates.

How do we tell her that it’s not the men, but her? — Stumped in Santa Monica,


DEAR STUMPED >> If you’re smart, you won’t — un­less she asks.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

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