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To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com/au­thor/hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> I’ve been with my boyfriend, “Jake,” for two years. We are both 32. Since the be­gin­ning, his sis­ter, “Michelle” (who is 26), has never liked me. Jake ad­mits there’s no rea­son for it. He thinks she’s just look­ing out for him be­cause he’s had bad re­la­tion­ships in the past. Michelle makes me very un­com­fort­able dur­ing fam­ily events by mak­ing rude com­ments, and she makes a point of ex­clud­ing me from any event she is host­ing. She has told peo­ple that I “shoved her” and ac­cuses me of re­fus­ing to let her talk to her brother. Nei­ther is true.

I have asked Jake to ask his sis­ter to apol­o­gize and make amends, but he in­sists she’ll do it when “hell freezes over.” He thinks I should try to make amends even though I have never done any­thing wrong.

I’m at a loss. I don’t think I should apol­o­gize for some­thing I’ve never done. Abby, she has be­lit­tled me in any en­counter we’ve had. The rest of the fam­ily shrugs and says, “That’s just the way she is.” Michelle has never liked any of Jake’s girl­friends, so this seems to be a pat­tern for her. I’m afraid it will even­tu­ally lead to the end of Jake’s and my re­la­tion­ship.

I love him very much, and I wish he could see my side on this. Could you please give me some ad­vice, Abby? — Not my fault in Al­berta,


DEAR NOT MY FAULT >> Michelle’s fix­a­tion on her brother isn’t nor­mal or healthy. That Jake has been will­ing to tol­er­ate it and not warn her to knock it off means that as long as you are with him, you will be sub­jected to her mis­treat­ment. You may love Jake, but as long as he is un­der the thumb of his jeal­ous and pos­ses­sive sis­ter, you will con­tinue to be abused and ma­ligned. My ad­vice is to cut your losses.

DEAR ABBY >> I am an African-Amer­i­can woman who was in a re­la­tion­ship with a His­panic man. I am now a sin­gle par­ent of a beau­ti­ful 6-month-old son who is my pride and joy.

My bira­cial son, who looks ex­actly like me, is very fairskinned. My prob­lem is, any time I leave the house with him, strangers feel the need to ask me rude ques­tions. I have been asked about my child’s fa­ther’s eth­nic­ity, and asked if I was baby-sit­ting some­one else’s child. I’m left flab­ber­gasted and speech­less. What should I say the next time a stranger asks about my son’s race, which is none of their busi­ness?

— Colorblind in Texas

DEAR COLORBLIND >> It’s nor­mal for peo­ple to be cu­ri­ous. If I were you, I wouldn’t tell them it’s none of their busi­ness be­cause if you do, you will come across as an­gry and de­fen­sive. When your son is older, it may make him won­der if there is some­thing wrong with his ap­pear­ance. A bet­ter way to han­dle it would be to mat­ter-of-factly just tell the truth and move on.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

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