Aries (March 21-April 19): Are you going to do what you said you would do? That’s all they care about today. Hopefully, you underestimated what you would do, and the delivery will be over your promise. Taurus (April 20-May 20): You might be very bored with what’s going on today, and that’s really just a challenge to look a little deeper. There’s always a pretty thing to be admired, a problem to be solved. There’s always a day to be made. Gemini (May 21-June 21): When you don’t exactly know how to manage what’s going on down low, look up high. Is there a higher thought that resonates with you? A guide, a cloud formation, a sky that speaks to you? Cancer (June 22-July 22): Small thinkers will go disguised as “reasonable” people. They may tell you about limits that are true for them, but that does not mean that the same rules apply to you. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): The market is calling you. You’ve something to sell, and they definitely want it. How will you position this? Knowable, likeable, trustable: You’re all these things. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Something you set up one way will end up another. There is nothing reasonable you can do about this. Settle in. That is just another way of saying, “Chill.” It’s going to work when you calm down. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): “With liberty and justice for all”: Well, that’s a big statement with a big meaning. Your sign of balance and fairness, you really get that, live it and mean it. What are you going to do about it today? Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Your plans are solid, meaning that nothing has been left to chance — but chance doesn’t like that at all. This is the time she will rebel, elbowing her way into the equation. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): The dynamic between two people is compelling. Fake or real — it depends a lot on the medium. Of the ones you observe now, you’re wise to be a little skeptical. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): There is safety in being shy. If you feel like hiding, it’s a signal that you will benefit by doing the opposite. Take one step forward. Put yourself out there, even if it feels foolish. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): You sought a position in the middle because you thought it would be logical and easier, but it wasn’t. There is no middle. It’s always the start of something or the end of something. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): Life is an experiment. No one ever really knows how a choice will turn out; they just get adept at playing their odds. And the only way to do that is by building experiences — choosing and then choosing again.
To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> I’ve been with my boyfriend, “Jake,” for two years. We are both 32. Since the beginning, his sister, “Michelle” (who is 26), has never liked me. Jake admits there’s no reason for it. He thinks she’s just looking out for him because he’s had bad relationships in the past. Michelle makes me very uncomfortable during family events by making rude comments, and she makes a point of excluding me from any event she is hosting. She has told people that I “shoved her” and accuses me of refusing to let her talk to her brother. Neither is true.
I have asked Jake to ask his sister to apologize and make amends, but he insists she’ll do it when “hell freezes over.” He thinks I should try to make amends even though I have never done anything wrong.
I’m at a loss. I don’t think I should apologize for something I’ve never done. Abby, she has belittled me in any encounter we’ve had. The rest of the family shrugs and says, “That’s just the way she is.” Michelle has never liked any of Jake’s girlfriends, so this seems to be a pattern for her. I’m afraid it will eventually lead to the end of Jake’s and my relationship.
I love him very much, and I wish he could see my side on this. Could you please give me some advice, Abby? — Not my fault in Alberta,
DEAR NOT MY FAULT >> Michelle’s fixation on her brother isn’t normal or healthy. That Jake has been willing to tolerate it and not warn her to knock it off means that as long as you are with him, you will be subjected to her mistreatment. You may love Jake, but as long as he is under the thumb of his jealous and possessive sister, you will continue to be abused and maligned. My advice is to cut your losses.
DEAR ABBY >> I am an African-American woman who was in a relationship with a Hispanic man. I am now a single parent of a beautiful 6-month-old son who is my pride and joy.
My biracial son, who looks exactly like me, is very fairskinned. My problem is, any time I leave the house with him, strangers feel the need to ask me rude questions. I have been asked about my child’s father’s ethnicity, and asked if I was baby-sitting someone else’s child. I’m left flabbergasted and speechless. What should I say the next time a stranger asks about my son’s race, which is none of their business?
— Colorblind in Texas
DEAR COLORBLIND >> It’s normal for people to be curious. If I were you, I wouldn’t tell them it’s none of their business because if you do, you will come across as angry and defensive. When your son is older, it may make him wonder if there is something wrong with his appearance. A better way to handle it would be to matter-of-factly just tell the truth and move on.
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