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Aries (March 21-April 19): To­day is rife with po­ten­tial for emo­tional ex­cite­ment. Steer clear of touchy con­ver­sa­tional top­ics and hot but­tons in gen­eral. Stay alert; some seem­ingly in­nocu­ous items could have sym­bolic sig­nif­i­cance to oth­ers. Tau­rus (April 20-May 20): The hard­line ap­proach just isn’t work­ing. Let things slide a bit to­day, in the name of self­com­pas­sion. Do the best you can, and let the cards fall where they may. Gem­ini (May 21-June 21): When you’re dis­tanc­ing your­self, you’re do­ing it for a rea­son. More re­al­ity is of­ten more stress. For now it’s enough to be a kind ob­server of your­self. What do you think you’re try­ing to ac­com­plish with your be­hav­ior? Cancer (June 22-July 22): High-tech scales can re­port wa­ter and body fat per­cent­ages now. Re­gard­less, what’s con­trol­lable in the sce­nario is what al­ways has been: what goes into your mouth and how you burn it off. This plays large into your day. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Ex­treme cute­ness has a way of melt­ing your heart. So do ex­tremes of pathos, need, af­fec­tion, vul­ner­a­bil­ity, soft­ness, beauty and more. You’ll come across re­mark­able in­stances of at least one or more of these qualities to­day. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Stud­ies show that daily has­sles can have a more sig­nif­i­cant im­pact on health and well­be­ing than big life events do. That’s why it’s im­por­tant to fix the small things that are both­er­ing you. Do it now. Li­bra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Peo­ple who are overly dra­matic (or who, through no fault of their own, just hap­pen to need lots of at­ten­tion) make it harder for you to choose the ac­tions that will up­hold val­ues that re­flect what you care about. Scor­pio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Food could be and should be a plea­sure. In­stead of won­der­ing what will work ad­e­quately for your next meal, you want to de­light in the daily prac­tice of eat­ing. What would be ec­static on the taste buds? Sagit­tar­ius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): The abil­ity to ob­serve ex­ter­nal and in­ter­nal in­for­ma­tion is governed by dif­fer­ent parts of the brain. Switch back and forth of­ten to­day. There will be magic in the fus­ing of your out­side and in­side worlds. Capri­corn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): You would like to have more em­pa­thy, love and com­pas­sion, but you also have goals to reach that dis­al­low you to spend too much time try­ing to sort out and cater to those messy things called “feel­ings.” There’s the rub. Aquar­ius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Your friend seems happy to ac­cept what is. Why can’t you be? Some­times it’s prob­lem­atic to have this kind of mind that reaches here, there and ev­ery­where for an­swers, but thinkers like you are in­te­gral to the hu­man race. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You’ll em­brace dif­fer­ences, dance with com­plex­i­ties and have your way with the con­trasts that make life so in­ter­est­ing. With your open mind and big spirit, you’ll ac­com­plish un­usual things.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com/au­thor/ hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> My boyfriend and I have been dat­ing for al­most two years, al­though we have known each other for al­most seven years now. He is sweet, com­pas­sion­ate, al­ways puts me first and is the best friend and ro­man­tic part­ner I could ever wish for.

My ques­tion is, is two years too soon to know that I want to spend my life with him? We have dis­cussed get­ting mar­ried and we would both like to, but I have heard count­less sto­ries about cou­ples di­vorc­ing be­cause they didn’t wait long enough be­fore get­ting mar­ried, and I don’t want to be one of those peo­ple. Please help.

— Lov­ing in California

DEAR LOV­ING >> In many cases, two years is long enough for a cou­ple to meet, know they are com­pat­i­ble, be­come en­gaged and marry. Hav­ing known this man for a to­tal of seven years, I would like to think that you have had a chance to ob­serve him in many sit­u­a­tions and pos­si­bly in other re­la­tion­ships. I would hope that you have both dated oth­ers and gained some ex­pe­ri­ence.

What con­cerns me is that you felt the need to write and ask me this ques­tion, be­cause it makes me won­der if you are com­pletely con­vinced that your mar­riage would last for­ever. Pre­mar­i­tal coun­sel­ing might put your mind at ease, and that’s what I rec­om­mend.

DEAR ABBY >> My hus­band and I have been mar­ried for two years. He keeps ask­ing about a tat­too I have on my an­kle and mak­ing fun of it. The tat­too is small and has my ini­tials, or so I tell him. I think he knows I’m lying. A guy I dated had the same ini­tials and we got match­ing tat­toos, but I have never ad­mit­ted it to my hus­band. Am I lying? Should I tell him whose ini­tials those really are? — Ini­tially con­fused

DEAR INI­TIALLY CON­FUSED >> Many peo­ple to­day have tat­toos, and some of them in­clude the names or ini­tials of for­mer boyfriends, girl­friends and spouses. You should have fessed up at the time you were be­ing mar­ried. The prob­lem with lying about some­thing as triv­ial as this is that it makes one won­der what else you would lie about.

I see several pos­si­ble so­lu­tions: First, tell your hus­band the truth. The sec­ond would be to have the tat­too re­moved. The third would be to add your mar­ried ini­tial to the ones al­ready on your an­kle, at which point they WILL be your ini­tials and yours alone — un­less you’re still us­ing your maiden name.

DEAR ABBY >> I have noticed that you of­ten tell peo­ple to talk to a spir­i­tual ad­viser. As an ag­nos­tic, I am cu­ri­ous whom you would rec­om­mend I speak to. — Rick in Den­ver

DEAR RICK >> In a case like yours, talk to some­one who is not per­son­ally or emo­tion­ally in­volved with you, such as a li­censed coun­selor.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

What teens need to know about sex, drugs, AIDS and get­ting along with peers and par­ents is in “What Ev­ery Teen Should Know.” Send your name and mail­ing ad­dress, plus check or money or­der for $7 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby, Teen Book­let, P.O. Box 447, Mount Mor­ris, IL 61054-0447. (Ship­ping and han­dling are in­cluded in the price.)

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