Boyfriend’s low en­ergy level causes woman high anx­i­ety

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DEAR ABBY >> My boyfriend doesn’t get ex­cited about any­thing anymore. He walks around the house all day with a gloomy ex­pres­sion. When I ask him about it, he tells me he is bored. I’m scared he might get bored with me. Our sex life is great, and the re­la­tion­ship seems like it’s on firm foot­ing. But I can’t shake this feel­ing he doesn’t want to be here anymore. Some­times I see him star­ing out the win­dow as if wait­ing for some­thing to hap­pen. He talks less and less ev­ery day. I’m not sure what’s wrong, and I’m re­ally scared for him.

— Alarmed in Ari­zona

DEAR ALARMED >> The be­hav­ior you have de­scribed could be a sign of de­pres­sion — or not. If you want to find out what’s go­ing on in your boyfriend’s head, sum­mon up the courage to ask him if he is un­happy in your re­la­tion­ship. If he says you aren’t the prob­lem, ex­plain that you can see his be­hav­ior has changed, and tell him that if he’s de­pressed, he needs to talk about it to a doc­tor and get a checkup. There might be a med­i­cal rea­son for his bore­dom and low en­ergy.

DEAR ABBY >> What do I do when rel­a­tives show up to fam­ily gath­er­ings with sick chil­dren? We re­cently hosted a fam­ily party in our home. My sis­ter-in-law ar­rived with an ob­vi­ously sick child in tow. I am preg­nant and have a 2-year-old son. Now my child and I are sick.

This isn’t the first time some­thing like this has hap­pened. How should I han­dle this in the fu­ture with­out start­ing World War III?

— Sick of germs in Arkansas

DEAR SICK OF GERMS >> Here’s how I’d han­dle it: I’d talk to all the in-laws. I would ex­plain that my 2-year-old and I caught what­ever the child had, and tell them I don’t want it to hap­pen again. Then I would add that in the fu­ture, I do not want any­one to come over if they or one of their chil­dren is sick. That’s not an un­rea­son­able re­quest. Be­cause, re­gret­tably, not all chil­dren are vac­ci­nated these days, you are lucky you didn’t catch some­thing that could have put your un­born child at risk.

DEAR ABBY >> My mother died re­cently. She had lovely em­bossed sta­tionery with her mono­gram. Would it be all right for me to use it to ac­knowl­edge gifts and notes of sym­pa­thy for her death, or should I use my own?

— San­dra in Sa­van­nah

DEAR SAN­DRA >> It would be bet­ter to use your own. To re­ceive an ac­knowl­edg­ment on let­ter­head bear­ing the mono­gram of the de­ceased might cause a neg­a­tive re­ac­tion. Be­cause the sta­tionery was ex­pen­sive, con­sider hav­ing it re­cut so the mono­gram is re­moved and us­ing it for your own per­sonal cor­re­spon­dence. That way, it won’t be wasted.

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