Hus­band’s par­ti­san pol­i­tics are dom­i­nat­ing so­cial vis­its

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DEAR ABBY >> My hus­band is very po­lit­i­cal, and around elec­tion time he be­comes en­grossed in news shows. He has a habit of show­ing his fa­vorite po­lit­i­cal news clips to friends when they visit. I am un­com­fort­able with this, as I feel our friends are too po­lite to de­cline, and they al­low my hus­band to preach pol­i­tics to them out of courtesy to the host. They are like­minded, po­lit­i­cally speak­ing, and the few who aren’t are not go­ing to be swayed by com­edy news shows.

I ex­cuse my­self from the room when he be­gins his ser­mons. I have asked him to stop do­ing this when friends visit, but he re­fuses. How can I per­suade him to just have “friends time” with no pol­i­tics?

— Po­lit­i­cally un­mo­ti­vated

DEAR PO­LIT­I­CALLY UN­MO­TI­VATED >> You can’t. You aren’t go­ing to change your hus­band. For­tu­nately, most of your friends are po­lit­i­cally like­minded. Those who find his en­ter­tain­ment to be of­fen­sive will post­pone see­ing you un­til af­ter the elec­tion is over. So stop stress­ing.

DEAR ABBY >> Is it OK for a per­son who went to AA a few years ago and has gone to­tally al­co­hol-free, to start hav­ing a beer ev­ery other night or even keep a bot­tle of vodka around to have ev­ery now and then? Or should you stay al­co­hol-free to be sure that this is­sue doesn’t hap­pen again? — Al­co­hol-free

DEAR AL­CO­HOL-FREE >> For some in­di­vid­u­als it may be pos­si­ble to have an oc­ca­sional drink with­out fall­ing com­pletely off the wagon, but I wouldn’t rec­om­mend it. And as to keep­ing a bot­tle of vodka around to nip into “ev­ery now and then,” I think that makes as much sense as keep­ing a box of choco­lates in the house if some­one is ad­dicted to sweets. (And many of us are!)

DEAR ABBY >> My sis­ter-in-law wants to choose the gifts we give them. She doesn’t have enough man­ners to smile, ac­cept a gift and say “thank you” as we were raised to do. She told us, “All those ed­u­ca­tional toys you gave my son, I do­nated them!” I have do­nated much of what she has given us, but I would never tell her that.

She’s now or­der­ing toys and hav­ing them de­liv­ered to our home for us to wrap and give to her son. I had al­ready bought a kalei­do­scope, books, race­track and a huge jar of lit­tle cars to use as re­wards since he’s 4 and still not potty-trained. She sent us a thank-you note (the first one ever) for the gifts THEY sent us to give my nephew, but did not men­tion the eight items I bought! Please help me cope with this ex­tremely rude sis­terin-law.

— Try­ing to cope in Texas

DEAR TRY­ING >> I’ll try. As I see it, you have two choices: The first is to de­cide to “go along with the pro­gram.” The sec­ond would be to tell her she has taken all the joy out of gift-giv­ing and, in the fu­ture, you will not be par­tic­i­pat­ing in the cha­rade.

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