Aries (March 21-April 19): You have big dreams and the passion to match. It’s why you show up early, stay late and do whatever else it takes to complete this (rather challenging) step. Taurus (April 20-May 20): If you’re concerned about meeting expectations or being good enough in any way, you can let go of those worries. First of all, you’re the one who will set up the expectation. Put it where you want it, and then deliver more. Gemini (May 21-June 21): In order to ask for help from the right people — that is to say, the ones who are in a position to give it — there is some research to be done. Start with who you know, and work your way toward who you want to know. Cancer (June 22-July 22): Forgetful? Write it down. Procrastinating? Set a timer. Distracted? Lock the door, turn off the Wi-Fi, and get down to business. Today’s best solutions will be simple, elegant and obvious. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): There are two reasons to cross things off your to-do list — because they are done or because they will never be done. Forces will collude to help you get more realistic about what you truly want. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Due to recent changes and new influences, there are a lot of thoughts zinging around today — an awful, terrible lot. But should you really be thinking about what to think? How about you reason it out on paper instead? Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Claiming oneself as the center of reality is a sure way to gain the contempt of others. You do the opposite, centering your life on the service of your loved ones, and you gain their undying devotion. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): You can’t stop time, but you can slow it with your mind, keep it from slipping through your fingers, cling to it as it passes. Hang on tight. These moments are worth noting. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): What about when it doesn’t add up? What about when there is a deficit that no one can reconcile? If it’s not happening, it’s not. What is there to do next? Nothing — except the one step, the step you take now. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): This was all just a dream; that’s the way you’ll think about it. People with much more of a handle on the rules will show you the inside workings, and you’ll be in a position of choice about what to do next. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Your way will work, but it’s not the best you can do. Get help; reach out. Use your current projects as an excuse to get to expand your network. There are people out there you really need to know. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You’ll be surprised by how much joy you can extract from your obligations, especially when they involve your community. Work the phone today. Your gift of gab is stellar.
To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/author/ holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> My 72-year-old husband believes that not voting in the upcoming presidential election is making a statement because he can’t tolerate any of the candidates. He believes that not voting is telling the political parties to offer more acceptable candidates.
I believe that not voting makes no statement AT ALL because many of those who don’t vote really don’t care, and THAT is the message that is received. Voting is a right that should be exercised. To vote is to make a statement. Do you think he is making his feelings known by not voting? — Not voting in the West
DEAR NOT VOTING >> No, I do not. Your husband seems to have forgotten how fortunate we are to live in a country where people CAN vote. In many countries, that’s not the case. The most important thing citizens can do is to educate themselves about the candidates and the issues and then cast their ballot. The higher the turnout, the more reflective the outcome is of the wishes of the people.
DEAR ABBY >> My boyfriend, “Fred,” and I have been together for 10 years, during five of which we have been engaged, although there has been no talk of actually setting a date. That doesn’t bother me because I am very unhappy in our relationship now.
Fred hasn’t worked in three years. I have been supporting him all this time and I’m losing my mind. I am doing everything I can, and I’m beyond stressed. I can’t talk to him about it because he doesn’t want to talk. I send out his resume, and he doesn’t return any calls to the places that call him.
I am 32 and feel like I am in a rut. What should I do?
DEAR IN A RUT >> Why are you sending out HIS resume? By now it should be clear to you that Fred has no intention of getting a job. Why should he? He has a good deal the way things are.
Engagements usually involve setting a wedding date. Because the two of you haven’t, and you are unhappy in your relationship, break off the non-engagement! Cut your losses by investing no more time (or money) in your deadbeat boyfriend and set yourself free.
DEAR ABBY >> I’m 10 years old and in fifth grade. I was in science class when my friend cheated off of me. I could confront her, but if I do I risk losing her as a friend. She has done some rude things to me in the past, and I don’t know what to do.
— Confused in Castaic, Calif.
DEAR CONFUSED >> Real friends don’t do rude things to each other. Now that you know your “friend” will copy your work, make sure not to sit next to her when tests are given. Unless you do, your teacher may think that because your answers are the same that YOU are the cheater, and you’ll be in real trouble.
If you can’t change seats because they are assigned, you will have to be extra-careful about keeping your test paper out of her line of sight.
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