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Aries (March 21-April 19): You have big dreams and the pas­sion to match. It’s why you show up early, stay late and do what­ever else it takes to com­plete this (rather chal­leng­ing) step. Tau­rus (April 20-May 20): If you’re con­cerned about meet­ing ex­pec­ta­tions or be­ing good enough in any way, you can let go of those wor­ries. First of all, you’re the one who will set up the ex­pec­ta­tion. Put it where you want it, and then de­liver more. Gem­ini (May 21-June 21): In or­der to ask for help from the right peo­ple — that is to say, the ones who are in a po­si­tion to give it — there is some re­search to be done. Start with who you know, and work your way to­ward who you want to know. Cancer (June 22-July 22): For­get­ful? Write it down. Pro­cras­ti­nat­ing? Set a timer. Dis­tracted? Lock the door, turn off the Wi-Fi, and get down to busi­ness. To­day’s best so­lu­tions will be sim­ple, ele­gant and ob­vi­ous. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): There are two rea­sons to cross things off your to-do list — be­cause they are done or be­cause they will never be done. Forces will col­lude to help you get more re­al­is­tic about what you truly want. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Due to re­cent changes and new in­flu­ences, there are a lot of thoughts zing­ing around to­day — an aw­ful, ter­ri­ble lot. But should you re­ally be think­ing about what to think? How about you rea­son it out on pa­per in­stead? Li­bra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Claim­ing one­self as the cen­ter of re­al­ity is a sure way to gain the con­tempt of oth­ers. You do the op­po­site, cen­ter­ing your life on the ser­vice of your loved ones, and you gain their undy­ing de­vo­tion. Scor­pio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): You can’t stop time, but you can slow it with your mind, keep it from slip­ping through your fin­gers, cling to it as it passes. Hang on tight. These mo­ments are worth not­ing. Sagit­tar­ius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): What about when it doesn’t add up? What about when there is a deficit that no one can rec­on­cile? If it’s not hap­pen­ing, it’s not. What is there to do next? Noth­ing — ex­cept the one step, the step you take now. Capri­corn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): This was all just a dream; that’s the way you’ll think about it. Peo­ple with much more of a han­dle on the rules will show you the in­side work­ings, and you’ll be in a po­si­tion of choice about what to do next. Aquar­ius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Your way will work, but it’s not the best you can do. Get help; reach out. Use your cur­rent projects as an ex­cuse to get to ex­pand your net­work. There are peo­ple out there you re­ally need to know. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You’ll be sur­prised by how much joy you can ex­tract from your obli­ga­tions, es­pe­cially when they in­volve your com­mu­nity. Work the phone to­day. Your gift of gab is stel­lar.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com/au­thor/ hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> My 72-year-old hus­band be­lieves that not vot­ing in the up­com­ing pres­i­den­tial elec­tion is mak­ing a state­ment be­cause he can’t tol­er­ate any of the can­di­dates. He be­lieves that not vot­ing is telling the po­lit­i­cal par­ties to of­fer more ac­cept­able can­di­dates.

I be­lieve that not vot­ing makes no state­ment AT ALL be­cause many of those who don’t vote re­ally don’t care, and THAT is the mes­sage that is re­ceived. Vot­ing is a right that should be ex­er­cised. To vote is to make a state­ment. Do you think he is mak­ing his feel­ings known by not vot­ing? — Not vot­ing in the West

DEAR NOT VOT­ING >> No, I do not. Your hus­band seems to have for­got­ten how for­tu­nate we are to live in a coun­try where peo­ple CAN vote. In many coun­tries, that’s not the case. The most im­por­tant thing cit­i­zens can do is to ed­u­cate them­selves about the can­di­dates and the is­sues and then cast their bal­lot. The higher the turnout, the more re­flec­tive the out­come is of the wishes of the peo­ple.

DEAR ABBY >> My boyfriend, “Fred,” and I have been to­gether for 10 years, dur­ing five of which we have been en­gaged, although there has been no talk of ac­tu­ally set­ting a date. That doesn’t bother me be­cause I am very un­happy in our re­la­tion­ship now.

Fred hasn’t worked in three years. I have been sup­port­ing him all this time and I’m los­ing my mind. I am do­ing ev­ery­thing I can, and I’m beyond stressed. I can’t talk to him about it be­cause he doesn’t want to talk. I send out his re­sume, and he doesn’t re­turn any calls to the places that call him.

I am 32 and feel like I am in a rut. What should I do?


DEAR IN A RUT >> Why are you send­ing out HIS re­sume? By now it should be clear to you that Fred has no in­ten­tion of get­ting a job. Why should he? He has a good deal the way things are.

En­gage­ments usu­ally in­volve set­ting a wed­ding date. Be­cause the two of you haven’t, and you are un­happy in your re­la­tion­ship, break off the non-en­gage­ment! Cut your losses by in­vest­ing no more time (or money) in your dead­beat boyfriend and set your­self free.

DEAR ABBY >> I’m 10 years old and in fifth grade. I was in sci­ence class when my friend cheated off of me. I could con­front her, but if I do I risk los­ing her as a friend. She has done some rude things to me in the past, and I don’t know what to do.

— Con­fused in Cas­taic, Calif.

DEAR CON­FUSED >> Real friends don’t do rude things to each other. Now that you know your “friend” will copy your work, make sure not to sit next to her when tests are given. Un­less you do, your teacher may think that be­cause your an­swers are the same that YOU are the cheater, and you’ll be in real trou­ble.

If you can’t change seats be­cause they are as­signed, you will have to be ex­tra-care­ful about keep­ing your test pa­per out of her line of sight.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

To or­der “How to Write Let­ters for All Oc­ca­sions,” send your name and mail­ing ad­dress, plus check or money or­der for $7 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby — Let­ter Book­let, P.O. Box 447, Mount Mor­ris, IL 61054-0447. Ship­ping and han­dling are in­cluded in the price.

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