Aries (March 21-April 19): You let nothing stop you from learning — everyone loves this about you, how you’re constantly evolving, stretching and growing into a person of your own creation. Taurus (April 20-May 20): You are so sensitive these days. Don’t direct your sensitivity inward; it will be too difficult. Instead, observe art, listen to poetry — you’ll understand it in a way you never did before. Gemini (May 21-June 21): What happens organically is working so great for you: You’re doing mighty fine. The fact of this will give you pause as you try to muddle through some plans. Plans are good to make. They focus you, whether or not you follow them. Cancer (June 22-July 22): Only a fool speaks every thought. After all, many of the thoughts aren’t even yours. They float into your mind from friends, media, the collective unconscious and elsewhere. All must be filtered through that wonderful system of yours. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): By showing up, on time, with a good attitude and a fair amount of energy to burn, you’ll earn the trust of someone who does not give such things very often. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): If you tell yourself over and over what you’re not going to do, you’ll wind up doing that thing. Who is to blame? Not your rebellious spirit. There’s a universal law here about attracting what you focus on, for better or for worse. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): It’s an easygoing day, partially due to your accepting mood. Roll with whatever comes, and you’re likely to turn it into something interesting, lucrative and memorable. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): When your emotional needs are met, the physical needs don’t seem as important. Neither do the other needs. So how can you make yourself happier on a daily basis? Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): You’ll meet impressive individuals who might have you feeling stumped for conversation. No worries. Start with an openended question with the word “what” to get the whole thing rolling. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Your perspective is about to shift big-time. What was uncomfortable will become bearable when you adjust your mind and get more experience. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): When you commit yourself to the task of making your life better going forward, sometimes this entails checking yourself by taking a few steps backward to see if you accidentally dropped your happiness back there. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You’re a serious powerhouse today. You have the same 24 hours in a day that everyone else has. But what you do with it makes everyone think you magically were given at least 36.
To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/author/ holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> I moved to a new state two years ago, mostly because I had a friend who lived here parttime. I have distanced myself from many of the people she has introduced me to because they all talk about each other behind their backs. They also don’t work many hours and start drinking very early in the day.
The other night I had my friend and her husband over for dinner with my boyfriend and me. For most of the night she was on the phone Facebooking and texting pictures of my dinner table to people I don’t bother with. There was absolutely no conversation between the two of us that night. When I said something about her being on the phone, her answer was that she was answering her Facebook messages. I found it extremely rude.
Because I have distanced myself from others around here, I’m not sure if I should say anything to her because if I do, it will mean I won’t have any friends around at all. What do you think?
— Afterthought in Florida
DEAR AFTERTHOUGHT >> Birds of a feather flock together. You made a huge mistake in giving up your old life to follow this “friend,” who appears to not only lack basic manners, but also to be indifferent to your feelings. It’s time to either start making new friends with people who think and act more like you do, or return where you came from so you can be with folks with whom you have more in common.
DEAR ABBY >> I am a happily divorced mother of two and have a wonderful life. I have a great relationship with my ex. He’s a wonderful father, and I’m grateful for that. We never fight and I always try to keep the peace.
He is remarried to a lovely woman and has another child with her, an adorable little boy. I consider him to be my children’s brother and make sure to buy him birthday and holiday gifts. I ask my children which milestones he has conquered and Facetime with him, too.
I’m writing because my grandmother, whom I love dearly, thinks I am not being nice and that I should go inside when I pick up my children and visit with the baby. She constantly asks me what my ex and his wife are doing. I always tell her I have no idea, and that it’s not my business.
I respect and want boundaries. I want to raise our children together and see them at our children’s events, birthdays, etc. How can I get my grandma to understand that I’m in a good place and glad that my ex is, too? I’m not interested in knowing where he is every second. Grandma is a very tough, strong, wonderful lady who loves your column.
— Moved on in the South
DEAR MOVED ON >> You seem like a healthy, well-adjusted woman. Point out to your grandmother that the good relationship you enjoy with your ex and his wife is based on the fact that you don’t ask questions or meddle in their lives. Suggest that if Grandma wants to know how they are and what they’re doing that she pick up a phone and ask them herself. That way, the person they will avoid will be her and not you. Repeat that message as needed.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.