Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dear Abby

Aries (March 21-April 19): You let noth­ing stop you from learn­ing — ev­ery­one loves this about you, how you’re con­stantly evolv­ing, stretch­ing and grow­ing into a per­son of your own cre­ation. Tau­rus (April 20-May 20): You are so sen­si­tive these days. Don’t di­rect your sen­si­tiv­ity in­ward; it will be too dif­fi­cult. In­stead, ob­serve art, lis­ten to poetry — you’ll un­der­stand it in a way you never did be­fore. Gem­ini (May 21-June 21): What hap­pens or­gan­i­cally is work­ing so great for you: You’re do­ing mighty fine. The fact of this will give you pause as you try to mud­dle through some plans. Plans are good to make. They fo­cus you, whether or not you fol­low them. Cancer (June 22-July 22): Only a fool speaks ev­ery thought. After all, many of the thoughts aren’t even yours. They float into your mind from friends, me­dia, the col­lec­tive un­con­scious and else­where. All must be fil­tered through that won­der­ful sys­tem of yours. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): By show­ing up, on time, with a good at­ti­tude and a fair amount of en­ergy to burn, you’ll earn the trust of some­one who does not give such things very of­ten. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): If you tell your­self over and over what you’re not go­ing to do, you’ll wind up do­ing that thing. Who is to blame? Not your re­bel­lious spirit. There’s a univer­sal law here about at­tract­ing what you fo­cus on, for bet­ter or for worse. Li­bra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): It’s an easy­go­ing day, par­tially due to your ac­cept­ing mood. Roll with what­ever comes, and you’re likely to turn it into some­thing in­ter­est­ing, lu­cra­tive and mem­o­rable. Scor­pio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): When your emo­tional needs are met, the phys­i­cal needs don’t seem as im­por­tant. Nei­ther do the other needs. So how can you make your­self hap­pier on a daily ba­sis? Sagit­tar­ius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): You’ll meet im­pres­sive in­di­vid­u­als who might have you feel­ing stumped for con­ver­sa­tion. No wor­ries. Start with an ope­nended ques­tion with the word “what” to get the whole thing rolling. Capri­corn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Your per­spec­tive is about to shift big-time. What was un­com­fort­able will be­come bear­able when you ad­just your mind and get more ex­pe­ri­ence. Aquar­ius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): When you com­mit your­self to the task of mak­ing your life bet­ter go­ing for­ward, some­times this en­tails check­ing your­self by tak­ing a few steps back­ward to see if you accidentally dropped your hap­pi­ness back there. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You’re a se­ri­ous pow­er­house to­day. You have the same 24 hours in a day that ev­ery­one else has. But what you do with it makes ev­ery­one think you mag­i­cally were given at least 36.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com/au­thor/ hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> I moved to a new state two years ago, mostly be­cause I had a friend who lived here part­time. I have dis­tanced my­self from many of the peo­ple she has in­tro­duced me to be­cause they all talk about each other be­hind their backs. They also don’t work many hours and start drink­ing very early in the day.

The other night I had my friend and her hus­band over for din­ner with my boyfriend and me. For most of the night she was on the phone Face­book­ing and tex­ting pic­tures of my din­ner ta­ble to peo­ple I don’t bother with. There was ab­so­lutely no con­ver­sa­tion be­tween the two of us that night. When I said some­thing about her be­ing on the phone, her an­swer was that she was an­swer­ing her Face­book mes­sages. I found it ex­tremely rude.

Be­cause I have dis­tanced my­self from oth­ers around here, I’m not sure if I should say any­thing to her be­cause if I do, it will mean I won’t have any friends around at all. What do you think?

— Af­ter­thought in Florida

DEAR AF­TER­THOUGHT >> Birds of a feather flock to­gether. You made a huge mis­take in giv­ing up your old life to fol­low this “friend,” who ap­pears to not only lack ba­sic man­ners, but also to be in­dif­fer­ent to your feel­ings. It’s time to ei­ther start mak­ing new friends with peo­ple who think and act more like you do, or re­turn where you came from so you can be with folks with whom you have more in com­mon.

DEAR ABBY >> I am a hap­pily di­vorced mother of two and have a won­der­ful life. I have a great re­la­tion­ship with my ex. He’s a won­der­ful fa­ther, and I’m grate­ful for that. We never fight and I al­ways try to keep the peace.

He is re­mar­ried to a lovely woman and has another child with her, an adorable lit­tle boy. I con­sider him to be my chil­dren’s brother and make sure to buy him birth­day and hol­i­day gifts. I ask my chil­dren which milestones he has con­quered and Facetime with him, too.

I’m writ­ing be­cause my grand­mother, whom I love dearly, thinks I am not be­ing nice and that I should go in­side when I pick up my chil­dren and visit with the baby. She con­stantly asks me what my ex and his wife are do­ing. I al­ways tell her I have no idea, and that it’s not my busi­ness.

I re­spect and want bound­aries. I want to raise our chil­dren to­gether and see them at our chil­dren’s events, birth­days, etc. How can I get my grandma to un­der­stand that I’m in a good place and glad that my ex is, too? I’m not in­ter­ested in know­ing where he is ev­ery sec­ond. Grandma is a very tough, strong, won­der­ful lady who loves your col­umn.

— Moved on in the South

DEAR MOVED ON >> You seem like a healthy, well-ad­justed woman. Point out to your grand­mother that the good re­la­tion­ship you en­joy with your ex and his wife is based on the fact that you don’t ask ques­tions or med­dle in their lives. Sug­gest that if Grandma wants to know how they are and what they’re do­ing that she pick up a phone and ask them her­self. That way, the per­son they will avoid will be her and not you. Re­peat that mes­sage as needed.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

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