Aries (March 21-April 19): There are so many explanations of things that are crude, mean and unintelligible that when you land on an explanation that is simple, clear and enchanting it will not only answer a question; it will begin a path. Taurus (April 20-May 20): You pretty much learned the thing: took the test; got the grade. Now what’s the next step? Knowledge on its own isn’t worth much unless you can put it to good use. Gemini (May 21-June 21): Your life will be better because you strive to live as fully as you can in the current so-called reality without taking it so seriously as to believe it to be the only reality there is. Cancer (June 22-July 22): You won’t be able to plan the exact action steps that will take you where you want to go, because you won’t know them until you’re already in action. Move and suddenly the next move (and the next and the next) becomes logical. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): The thing you most need to do today is probably the same thing you’d like to avoid because it’s either uncomfortable or risky or it could lead to a rejection. Do it first so you can get it over with and be proud of yourself. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): While you’re usually destination-oriented, in regard to today’s journey you set out to travel both everywhere and nowhere as you find there is so much knowledge and wisdom to gather within a small circle. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Which way would you take this if money were no object? That’s the way you need to move it today, as a few things are likely to happen. First, it won’t cost as much as you thought. Second, benefactors will volunteer. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Finish what’s on your list, celebrate and then rest. The celebration doesn’t have to be anything big; a small ritual will do. Don’t skip that part, because it’s as important to the cycle as work or rest. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): There are many forms of self-sabotage to be alert to and to stamp out before they have a chance to foul you. For instance, starting too many projects at once is a form of procrastination, as it delays the completion of all goals. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Today you’ll get valuable external feedback and you’ll have the chance to make a course correction that leads to spiritual riches. This is the kind of wealth that can never be taken away.
Once again it’s time to veer off of what you’ve been taught. This isn’t disobedience so much as an expression of your individuality. You can’t leave your footprint on this earth if you walk in another person’s tracks. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You want to grow quickly through an awkward beginning stage of learning. In this way you’re like a child trying to act older than his or her years. There’s no pressure to do too much too fast. Savor the innocence.
To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/author/ holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> I’m a lesbian currently dating a woman who is still in the closet. She now identifies as bisexual. We have been dating for about a year.
The issue is that she is still in contact with a lot of her ex-boyfriends. I don’t expect her to come out of the closet on my time. However, I do have a problem with her talking to ex-boyfriends when they don’t know she’s in a relationship. She thinks I’m overreacting. However, she has admitted that she’d have a problem with me talking to exes and not bringing up the fact I’m in a relationship.
She has finally admitted that I am a friend and introduced me to her family and one other friend. It took a lot of work to get that far. I am demanding that she acknowledge — at the very least — that she is in a relationship. I’m not demanding she tell them it’s with a girl. I don’t want to date someone who is ashamed of me.
Most of the time when she talks to an ex, new romantic interests don’t seem to come up. I would prefer that she tell them right away, although she argues it isn’t the right time to randomly bring it up in a conversation. I no longer trust her to care more about my feelings than her interests. Should I say goodbye to this one?
— Dating in silence
DEAR DATING IN SILENCE >> Yes. If, after a year of dating, your girlfriend is still hiding your relationship, I think that’s exactly what you should do. LGBT people come out in their own way, in their own time. If this difference in where the two of you are is a deal-breaker, you should move on and find someone more compatible.
DEAR ABBY >> For the last seven years I have been in a long-distance relationship. I see him every three months. He is divorced and a workaholic. I love him very much, and he says he also loves me.
I had put a tattoo of his name on my hip. This time when he visited, I showed it to him. When I did, he was shocked. He said he was flattered, but thought it was “a bit much.” Then he said he would never tattoo someone’s name on himself unless he first asked permission.
I told him that I really love him, and even if something happened and we broke up for some reason that it was all right. I said I am 60 years old, and it was my body and my decision, and that I did it for myself because I will never love another man the way I love him.
Abby, do you think I should have asked him first? Do you think maybe he doesn’t love me as much as he says he does? Please help me understand this.
— Tattoo in San Diego
DEAR TATTOO >> You are an adult, and at age 60 you should not have to ask anyone’s permission to get a tattoo. If, after seven years, you see this man only every three months, it should be plain by now that he’s not interested in a closer relationship.
Most men would be flattered that you got the tattoo, unless they were afraid it might somehow reveal that you are lovers. Are you absolutely sure this man is divorced? Your situation is so peculiar that it’s time you did some double-checking. Better late than never.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.