Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dear Abby

Aries (March 21-April 19): There are so many ex­pla­na­tions of things that are crude, mean and un­in­tel­li­gi­ble that when you land on an ex­pla­na­tion that is sim­ple, clear and en­chant­ing it will not only an­swer a ques­tion; it will be­gin a path. Tau­rus (April 20-May 20): You pretty much learned the thing: took the test; got the grade. Now what’s the next step? Knowl­edge on its own isn’t worth much un­less you can put it to good use. Gem­ini (May 21-June 21): Your life will be bet­ter be­cause you strive to live as fully as you can in the cur­rent so-called re­al­ity without tak­ing it so se­ri­ously as to be­lieve it to be the only re­al­ity there is. Can­cer (June 22-July 22): You won’t be able to plan the ex­act ac­tion steps that will take you where you want to go, be­cause you won’t know them un­til you’re al­ready in ac­tion. Move and sud­denly the next move (and the next and the next) be­comes log­i­cal. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): The thing you most need to do to­day is prob­a­bly the same thing you’d like to avoid be­cause it’s ei­ther un­com­fort­able or risky or it could lead to a re­jec­tion. Do it first so you can get it over with and be proud of your­self. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): While you’re usu­ally des­ti­na­tion-ori­ented, in re­gard to to­day’s jour­ney you set out to travel both ev­ery­where and nowhere as you find there is so much knowl­edge and wis­dom to gather within a small cir­cle. Li­bra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Which way would you take this if money were no ob­ject? That’s the way you need to move it to­day, as a few things are likely to hap­pen. First, it won’t cost as much as you thought. Sec­ond, bene­fac­tors will vol­un­teer. Scor­pio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Fin­ish what’s on your list, cel­e­brate and then rest. The cel­e­bra­tion doesn’t have to be any­thing big; a small rit­ual will do. Don’t skip that part, be­cause it’s as im­por­tant to the cy­cle as work or rest. Sagit­tar­ius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): There are many forms of self-sab­o­tage to be alert to and to stamp out be­fore they have a chance to foul you. For in­stance, start­ing too many projects at once is a form of pro­cras­ti­na­tion, as it de­lays the com­ple­tion of all goals. Capri­corn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): To­day you’ll get valu­able ex­ter­nal feed­back and you’ll have the chance to make a course cor­rec­tion that leads to spir­i­tual riches. This is the kind of wealth that can never be taken away.

Once again it’s time to veer off of what you’ve been taught. This isn’t dis­obe­di­ence so much as an ex­pres­sion of your in­di­vid­u­al­ity. You can’t leave your foot­print on this earth if you walk in an­other per­son’s tracks. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You want to grow quickly through an awk­ward be­gin­ning stage of learn­ing. In this way you’re like a child try­ing to act older than his or her years. There’s no pres­sure to do too much too fast. Sa­vor the in­no­cence.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com/au­thor/ hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> I’m a les­bian cur­rently dat­ing a woman who is still in the closet. She now iden­ti­fies as bi­sex­ual. We have been dat­ing for about a year.

The is­sue is that she is still in con­tact with a lot of her ex-boyfriends. I don’t ex­pect her to come out of the closet on my time. How­ever, I do have a prob­lem with her talk­ing to ex-boyfriends when they don’t know she’s in a re­la­tion­ship. She thinks I’m over­re­act­ing. How­ever, she has ad­mit­ted that she’d have a prob­lem with me talk­ing to exes and not bring­ing up the fact I’m in a re­la­tion­ship.

She has fi­nally ad­mit­ted that I am a friend and in­tro­duced me to her fam­ily and one other friend. It took a lot of work to get that far. I am de­mand­ing that she ac­knowl­edge — at the very least — that she is in a re­la­tion­ship. I’m not de­mand­ing she tell them it’s with a girl. I don’t want to date some­one who is ashamed of me.

Most of the time when she talks to an ex, new ro­man­tic in­ter­ests don’t seem to come up. I would pre­fer that she tell them right away, al­though she ar­gues it isn’t the right time to ran­domly bring it up in a con­ver­sa­tion. I no longer trust her to care more about my feel­ings than her in­ter­ests. Should I say good­bye to this one?

— Dat­ing in si­lence

DEAR DAT­ING IN SI­LENCE >> Yes. If, after a year of dat­ing, your girl­friend is still hid­ing your re­la­tion­ship, I think that’s ex­actly what you should do. LGBT peo­ple come out in their own way, in their own time. If this dif­fer­ence in where the two of you are is a deal-breaker, you should move on and find some­one more com­pat­i­ble.

DEAR ABBY >> For the last seven years I have been in a long-dis­tance re­la­tion­ship. I see him ev­ery three months. He is di­vorced and a worka­holic. I love him very much, and he says he also loves me.

I had put a tat­too of his name on my hip. This time when he vis­ited, I showed it to him. When I did, he was shocked. He said he was flat­tered, but thought it was “a bit much.” Then he said he would never tat­too some­one’s name on him­self un­less he first asked per­mis­sion.

I told him that I re­ally love him, and even if some­thing hap­pened and we broke up for some rea­son that it was all right. I said I am 60 years old, and it was my body and my de­ci­sion, and that I did it for my­self be­cause I will never love an­other man the way I love him.

Abby, do you think I should have asked him first? Do you think maybe he doesn’t love me as much as he says he does? Please help me un­der­stand this.

— Tat­too in San Diego

DEAR TAT­TOO >> You are an adult, and at age 60 you should not have to ask any­one’s per­mis­sion to get a tat­too. If, after seven years, you see this man only ev­ery three months, it should be plain by now that he’s not in­ter­ested in a closer re­la­tion­ship.

Most men would be flat­tered that you got the tat­too, un­less they were afraid it might some­how re­veal that you are lovers. Are you ab­so­lutely sure this man is di­vorced? Your sit­u­a­tion is so pe­cu­liar that it’s time you did some dou­ble-check­ing. Bet­ter late than never.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

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