Aries (March 21-April 19): You may sincerely know you are right, but that is not the point. Being right doesn’t automatically protect you. You still need to prepare yourself for possible opposition and other incidents that could happen. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Maybe it’s too early for a rest from commerce and travel and business of all kinds, but it’s not too early to plan one and prepare for it. The dormant periods are important to your well-being. How are you going to make it happen? Gemini (May 21-June 21): Just because you passed this way before does not mean that you are regressing. Think of this as running laps. Each repetition makes you stronger, helps you grow faster and counts toward your general progress. Cancer (June 22-July 22): The visiting will be better when you use the time between visits to better yourself. That’s the time you practice, hone your skills and fine-tune your image. Challenge yourself to show up even stronger next time. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Right now the fruit of your labor is a lot like a watched pot. It will seem not to ripen while your eyeballs are on it. Back off. Let time and the sun do their job while you plant elsewhere. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Men have gone mad from anticipating what stays out of reach for too long. Perhaps it takes a bit of madness to keep going past a certain point. Is it really worth it? Much depends on how much you value the prize. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): There’s humor in the situation. In order to see it, though, one would have to have the funny kind of mind that needs the laughter, looks for it, finds it and is released by it. That’s you! Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Groups and crowds are not the same thing. The few behave differently than the many, and different rules apply for managing them. And yet, what you get right on the small scale today will definitely work when you scale it up. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): The small rubs of life can be more detrimental to your happiness, health and well-being than big events. Coping is a lifestyle issue. Build a reliable set of go-to strategies for dealing with daily stresses. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): If you don’t lunge for the brass ring, no one will know you want it. But if you lunge for it too hard, you’ll throw yourself off balance and fall. Core strength is needed here for a graceful, controlled grab. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): An emotional weather front may seem like an uncontrollable natural force — nope! It’s the air currents that carry the weather. You’re an air sign. Blow a little and the storm moves away. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): There’s no such thing as a pattern of one. The first time something happens it is difficult, if not impossible, for you to see that it is part of a cycle. The second time brings awareness, new questions, and the comfort of repetition.
To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com and click “Write the Author” on her page. DEAR ABBY >> I’m 18 and a freshman in college. My 16-year-old brother is supposed to be a junior in high school, but he’s still taking freshman classes. He has gone to school maybe twice this year. He just gave up and dropped out.
All he does is stay home, sleep and text all day. It makes me angry because I don’t work right now, but I clean, cook, do laundry and take care of my younger siblings while he does absolutely nothing.
Mom has given up on him. She begs him to go to school and get an education, but he yells at her and tells her he doesn’t care and he’ll just become a hobo. I don’t know what to say to him to get it through his head that he needs to finish high school. What would you do?
— Big sister in New York
DEAR BIG SISTER >> If your brother is a junior and still taking freshman classes, he belongs back in school. He may be lazy, but he may also have learning disabilities. If he doesn’t get the help he needs to earn a diploma, he’ll be virtually unemployable by the time he’s 18. Your mother should visit his school and talk to his teachers and the principal about this. As it stands, your brother may be considered “truant,” which is against the law. DEAR ABBY >> I am 47 years old and date younger, usually very attractive women. I live in New York City, so they tend to be models. I haven’t been married because I feel like I haven’t met “the one.” I have been with one or two women who could have been the one, only to find out my feelings weren’t reciprocated. But more often I don’t feel an emotional/intellectual connection, so I end the relationship.
While I might be able to resolve that issue by dating women in their late 30s and 40s, I’m more physically attracted to younger women. Because I don’t look my age, I have yet to reach the point where I look “too old” for women in their 20s to be attracted.
Do I continue to follow my male instincts and date younger women, or should I date women closer to my age to whom I may not be as physically attracted, knowing there’s still no guarantee I’ll meet someone with whom I’ll find a stronger connection?
— Likes ‘em younger
DEAR LIKES >> Forgive me for answering your question with a question, but what do you really want in a relationship? The problem with youth is that it doesn’t last. As the years go by, we get older — if we’re lucky. That’s why it’s time to start listing your priorities, with the help of a licensed mental health professional, if necessary. (There are many well-qualified ones in your city.) I urge you to do it soon, before you start looking like your date’s rich uncle. While marriage may not be for everyone, it’s a known fact that married men live longer.
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