Man’s house isn’t big enough for wife’s many grand­chil­dren

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DEAR ABBY >>

I have been with my wife for 16 years. She has a grown daugh­ter who’s the mother of eight kids, but she only has five with her at this time.

My prob­lem is, the daugh­ter got evicted, and all of a sud­den she brought her be­long­ings to the house. She didn’t ask or any­thing, she just showed up with the five kids and they are driv­ing me up the wall. I al­ready have two ado­les­cent kids, so seven ain’t heaven.

I have tried to talk with my wife, but she doesn’t lis­ten. I’m fed up, Abby, and I’m look­ing for other ac­com­mo­da­tions. They have been here for two weeks and — by the way — my sons are now in school while her five are run­ning wild in the house. Am I wrong for leav­ing? — Needs my own space DEAR NEEDS >>

Not in my book. Your mis­take was in let­ting your wife’s daugh­ter’s evic­tion be­come your prob­lem. I don’t know whose name is on the lease or ti­tle to your place, but it’s time to dis­cuss this with an at­tor­ney. If you don’t, you may have more trou­ble get­ting the woman and her brood out of there in the fu­ture. DEAR ABBY >>

My friend whom I have known since we were 8-year-olds (we’re now in our 50s) is driv­ing me bonkers. She has started drink­ing a lot and hang­ing out with younger peo­ple and dat­ing younger guys. I have loaned her quite a bit of money be­cause she can barely get by. I don’t drink, and I hate see­ing what she’s do­ing to her­self. I think she is hav­ing trou­ble with the ag­ing process.

She has now started to em­bar­rass me when she drinks in pub­lic. She doesn’t han­dle it well and re­lies on me to get her out of sticky sit­u­a­tions. I’m re­ally tired of all this. I have told her how I feel, but she knows I’ll come to her res­cue. — Tired guardian an­gel DEAR TIRED >>

Draw the line. Tell her you are her friend, but not her chap­er­one, and you will so­cial­ize with her only if she lim­its her in­take to non­al­co­holic bev­er­ages. One of the signs of al­co­holism is when the drink­ing in­ter­feres with the drinker’s re­la­tion­ships — and clearly, this is what’s hap­pen­ing. Do not al­low her to con­tinue mak­ing her drink­ing your prob­lem be­cause you can­not con­trol it. Only she can do that. DEAR ABBY >>

At hol­i­day time, my hus­band’s fam­ily takes a photo of all the broth­ers and sis­ters and in­sists that the spouses not be in­cluded in the photo. The first time it hap­pened, I thought it was rude, but af­ter 40 years, I have got­ten used to it. How­ever, my daugh­ter-in-law, who is new to the fam­ily, was hurt by it. Am I wrong in think­ing this is rude? — In or out of the pic­ture DEAR IN OR OUT >>

I don’t think you’re wrong. When peo­ple are ex­cluded, they don’t feel ac­cepted as part of the fam­ily — and they’re right. Are more pho­tos taken that in­clude all fam­ily mem­bers in­clud­ing hus­bands, wives and chil­dren? And if not, why would the spouses tol­er­ate it for 40 years with­out speak­ing up? Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

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