Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dear Abby

Aries (March 21-April 19): Your head­strong na­ture is so cush­ioned in per­sonal charm that your ram horns are prac­ti­cally a se­cret. There­fore, your Hal­loween al­ter ego is a horned crea­ture, per­haps a Poke­mon or some­thing of the devilish va­ri­ety. Tau­rus (April 20-May 20): As the sign of ap­petite, your Hal­loween al­ter ego fits per­fectly with the trend of dress­ing as cute foods — es­pe­cially a cup­cake, pizza slice or taco. As for your own ap­petites, they are very much in con­trol to­day. Gem­ini (May 21-June 21): Be­ing part of a duo is al­ways lucky for the Gem­ini twins, and your Hal­loween al­ter ego may in­clude a friend who can be Trump to your Clin­ton or Har­ley Quinn to your Joker. Cancer (June 22-July 22): Your Hal­loween al­ter ego will em­brace your lu­nar roots in the form of the pup­pies and wolves who howl at the moon, as well as were­wolves, cat peo­ple and shape-shifters be­holden to the lu­nar cy­cle. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Your Hal­loween al­ter ego will speak to the charisma you share with your celebrity coun­ter­parts. Who could you im­per­son­ate? A Kar­dashian or a Bieber or per­haps a wild Cyrus? Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Your ver­bal acu­men might make its way into cos­tume form with a punny suit-up. It’s fun to fig­ure out how you might em­body the Whip and Nae Nae or Jon Snow White. Li­bra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Your Hal­loween al­ter ego will pro­mote jus­tice, just like you do in your own way ev­ery sin­gle day. So the ques­tion is: What su­per­hero do you most re­late to? Scor­pio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): You’re more apt to visit the spooky side of things this Hal­loween, and your metic­u­lous way with makeup could make for a chill­ing zom­bie or a haunt­ing Day of the Dead skele­ton. Sagit­tar­ius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): You’re the pi­o­neer­ing ad­ven­turer of the zo­diac, and your Hal­loween al­ter ego should tap into your in­ter­ga­lac­tic sen­si­bil­i­ties. No alien, as­tro­naut or “Star Trek” char­ac­ter is off-lim­its. Capri­corn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Your power-player sta­tus con­nects you with the roy­als of the ages, real and imag­ined. Your Hal­loween al­ter ego has the stature of Cleopa­tra, King Tut, the Queen of Hearts or Prince Charm­ing. Aquar­ius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): You un­der­stand the world through study­ing his­tory and the way hu­mans have evolved through it. Your Hal­loween al­ter ego will cel­e­brate a dif­fer­ent pe­riod of time, such as the Roar­ing ‘20s or the free-lov­ing ‘60s. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): Imag­i­na­tion is height­ened for you this Hal­loween, as the sun heads to­ward an align­ment with your guid­ing planet. Your Hal­loween al­ter ego will em­brace the mys­ti­cal in forms such as mer­maids, fairies, gods and god­desses.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com/au­thor/ hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> My 34-year-old daugh­ter, “Martha,” is a sin­gle mom. I adore my grand­daugh­ter. Martha needs me to give her $500 a month, plus cover emer­gen­cies (new tires, hospi­tal bills for baby, etc.) in or­der to get by. She has said re­peat­edly that she wants to have an­other baby be­fore she’s 35.

Abby, it’s a fi­nan­cial bur­den to help her as much as we have. My hus­band (her step­dad) be­lieves, along with me, that we should help un­til her fi­nances im­prove. Martha is awash in stu­dent debt and has a low-pay­ing job. She lives 12 hours away, so we have to fly out to see them, which means we don’t see them of­ten.

My ques­tion: How can I tell her that hav­ing a se­cond baby when she can’t sup­port the first is some­thing I can’t han­dle fi­nan­cially? I am be­com­ing re­sent­ful. Our re­tire­ment has been dis­mal be­cause all our money is go­ing to her.

My daugh­ter has a hair­trig­ger tem­per and would use ac­cess to my grand­daugh­ter as lever­age to keep the money com­ing. I’m ap­palled that she’s in this po­si­tion and up­set that I have to pay for her choices. — Ap­palled in Ohio

DEAR AP­PALLED >> You DON’T have to pay for your daugh­ter’s choices. Tell Martha that as an adult it is HER re­spon­si­bil­ity — not yours — to pro­vide for her­self and her child, and that if she be­comes preg­nant be­fore her fi­nances im­prove to the point that she’s self-sup­port­ing, not to ex­pect one more penny from you.

Please con­sider start­ing to re­duce the amount you give her and set a dead­line be­yond which you will no longer sup­ple­ment her in­come. Martha may need to find a se­cond job, but that’s bet­ter than you spend­ing all your re­tire­ment money shoul­der­ing her re­spon­si­bil­i­ties.

Ex­pect her to be an­gry. If she threat­ens to black­mail you with ac­cess to your grand­child, tell her that the per­son she’ll be pun­ish­ing is the lit­tle one, not you, and stick to your guns.

DEAR ABBY >> My hus­band has pur­chased dif­fer­ent pieces of equip­ment over the years. He re­cently bought a small trac­tor that he’s very proud of and en­joys us­ing around our prop­erty. He also has pur­chased a large trailer that he of­ten uses to haul his equip­ment and other things.

His prob­lem is friends who seem to think they can help them­selves to his stuff. They ac­tu­ally have the au­dac­ity to say, “I may bor­row your trac­tor, trailer, etc., to­mor­row.” I find this to be rude in that they are not ask­ing — they are TELLING him they will.

I told him to say he doesn’t loan his equip­ment out, but he can’t seem to be able to say that. Do you have a good come­back that he could use with­out of­fend­ing his friends?

— Fraz­zled wife

DEAR FRAZ­ZLED >> You, not your hus­band, ap­pear to be the per­son with the prob­lem. Nowhere in your let­ter did you men­tion that HE thinks he has one. If he re­sents what these friends are do­ing, a so­lu­tion might be for him to tell them to talk to YOU about bor­row­ing the equip­ment, so you can refuse for him.

A NOTE TO PAR­ENTS OF YOUNG CHIL­DREN: If your lit­tle ones will be out trickor-treat­ing tonight, please be sure they are su­per­vised to as­sure their safety.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www. Dear­Abby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

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