Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dear Abby

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To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com/ au­thor/hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> My brother and his wife have been mar­ried 3 ½ years and have an 18-mon­thold daugh­ter. My sis­ter-in­law, “Barb,” is ei­ther very rude or pas­sive-ag­gres­sive to our mother in emails and when she thinks no one is around.

At Christ­mas, Barb sends out an email de­tail­ing what we are and are not al­lowed to buy for their daugh­ter. If we can’t do ex­actly what she wants, she threat­ens to can­cel Christ­mas. This in­cludes ask­ing her per­mis­sion be­fore we buy any toys. Barb tells my mom that be­cause her mother doesn’t have much money, Mom can’t spend more than her mother does. So, be­cause my fam­ily has a lit­tle more money, we are be­ing pun­ished.

Barb is ex­tremely de­mean­ing and hurt­ful to us. I can’t un­der­stand why my brother al­lows it. My hus­band and I are sick and tired of her act­ing this way, and the way she treats my mother is cruel. I’m tempted to con­front her about how she has ru­ined Christ­mas for my par­ents. She ba­si­cally doesn’t al­low us to have feel­ings, and I can’t be­lieve we are stand­ing for it. Help!

— Hol­i­day hostage

DEAR HOSTAGE >> Your sis­ter-in­law may be telling your par­ents not to spend more money on gifts for the grand­child be­cause she doesn’t want her mother to be em­bar­rassed. How­ever, if her rude be­hav­ior ex­tends be­yond that, rather than take her on, the per­son you should “con­front” about it is your brother.

DEAR ABBY >> My fi­ance and I are in the process of or­der­ing our wed­ding in­vi­ta­tions, and the phrase “the honor of your pres­ence is re­quested” ver­sus “the plea­sure of your com­pany is re­quested” is caus­ing a prob­lem.

The woman at the store in­sists we use the lat­ter be­cause the cer­e­mony won’t be in a church. My re­search on the in­ter­net says if the cer­e­mony is a re­li­gious one, the phrase “the honor of your pres­ence” is ap­pro­pri­ate, and it is also our pref­er­ence. How­ever, if the cer­e­mony is a civil one, the “plea­sure of your com­pany is re­quested” is the pre­ferred one.

Our min­is­ter will be per­form­ing the cer­e­mony in the gazebo at the coun­try club. Although it’s not a church, the cer­e­mony will cer­tainly be re­li­gious. What’s the proper eti­quette on this is­sue? In­vi­ta­tions are on hold un­til I hear from you. — Donna in Florida

DEAR DONNA >> The sales­per­son at the store is mis­taken. The word­ing on your wed­ding in­vi­ta­tion is not de­ter­mined by whether you are be­ing mar­ried in a church.

I ran your let­ter by Lisa Grotts, a San Fran­cisco Ba­yarea cer­ti­fied eti­quette ex­pert, who had this to say:

“The word­ing of wed­ding in­vi­ta­tions varies, de­pend­ing upon who is host­ing the wed­ding, i.e., the par­ents of the bride or groom. If the bride’s par­ents are host­ing, then the phrase ‘the honor of your pres­ence’ is cor­rect. How­ever, if you and your fi­ance (or other fam­ily mem­bers) are host­ing the wed­ding, then the more mod­ern ter­mi­nol­ogy ‘the plea­sure of your com­pany’ is prefer­able.”

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

What teens need to know about sex, drugs, AIDS and get­ting along with peers and par­ents is in “What Ev­ery Teen Should Know.” Send your name and mail­ing ad­dress, plus check or money order for $7 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby, Teen Book­let, P.O. Box 447, Mount Mor­ris, IL 61054-0447. (Ship­ping and han­dling are in­cluded in the price.)

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