Aries (March 21-April 19): You may get off to a slow start, and perhaps your goal is the thing to blame — not quite big enough to enthuse you. See what happens after you raise the stakes. Taurus (April 20-May 20): In one mood, you’ll say, “No regrets.” In another mood, there’s a list of things you would do differently if you could. Both moods have their merits. The past needs to be examined, after all. It also needs to be released. Gemini (May 21-June 21): You’re considerate, and you love to please, but you’re also careful not to waste a lot of effort where it won’t be appreciated. You’ll have the biggest impact when your efforts are well-matched to the situation. Cancer (June 22-July 22): Go on and jot down those notes to yourself. You’ll be surprised by your own pen. Also, writing will help you mentally organize yourself even if you don’t save what you’ve written. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): People making hysterical fools out of themselves may be in keeping with the shenanigans of the day, and you’ll laugh along with the others. You won’t feel complete until you’ve tended to more serious tones, too. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Congratulations: Today you are the solution. Of course, that means that in order to really shine, you need a problem. Open your helping heart and the perfect one will quickly show up. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): You’ll speak powerfully and confidently. Your ideas will be a hit, as long as you act on them. Be decisive. Follow through. Don’t ask for permission when you know it’s what’s best for all. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): The one who should be in the starring role of your life is you. Someone else seems to be vying for the part these days. Yes, this person needs care and love, too — but save some for you! Healthy boundaries are the way. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Stay buoyant. The others are counting on you to break the ice, crack a joke, make it fun. The heavy karma will work itself out in a hundred lighthearted exchanges. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): It might not go according to plan, but it will all go better because you have a plan. Prioritize consciously before you get into your day, or you’ll wind up serving someone else’s priorities. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): People will work for your approval, ask for your advice and make various kinds of attempts for your support. It is no small thing to be respected by your peers. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You’ve had to surmount a few difficulties to get here, and now the challenge you face is one of your own design — that’s what makes it worthwhile. This is harder than what others would have encouraged you to take on.
To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/ author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> My brother and his wife have been married 3 ½ years and have an 18-monthold daughter. My sister-inlaw, “Barb,” is either very rude or passive-aggressive to our mother in emails and when she thinks no one is around.
At Christmas, Barb sends out an email detailing what we are and are not allowed to buy for their daughter. If we can’t do exactly what she wants, she threatens to cancel Christmas. This includes asking her permission before we buy any toys. Barb tells my mom that because her mother doesn’t have much money, Mom can’t spend more than her mother does. So, because my family has a little more money, we are being punished.
Barb is extremely demeaning and hurtful to us. I can’t understand why my brother allows it. My husband and I are sick and tired of her acting this way, and the way she treats my mother is cruel. I’m tempted to confront her about how she has ruined Christmas for my parents. She basically doesn’t allow us to have feelings, and I can’t believe we are standing for it. Help!
— Holiday hostage
DEAR HOSTAGE >> Your sister-inlaw may be telling your parents not to spend more money on gifts for the grandchild because she doesn’t want her mother to be embarrassed. However, if her rude behavior extends beyond that, rather than take her on, the person you should “confront” about it is your brother.
DEAR ABBY >> My fiance and I are in the process of ordering our wedding invitations, and the phrase “the honor of your presence is requested” versus “the pleasure of your company is requested” is causing a problem.
The woman at the store insists we use the latter because the ceremony won’t be in a church. My research on the internet says if the ceremony is a religious one, the phrase “the honor of your presence” is appropriate, and it is also our preference. However, if the ceremony is a civil one, the “pleasure of your company is requested” is the preferred one.
Our minister will be performing the ceremony in the gazebo at the country club. Although it’s not a church, the ceremony will certainly be religious. What’s the proper etiquette on this issue? Invitations are on hold until I hear from you. — Donna in Florida
DEAR DONNA >> The salesperson at the store is mistaken. The wording on your wedding invitation is not determined by whether you are being married in a church.
I ran your letter by Lisa Grotts, a San Francisco Bayarea certified etiquette expert, who had this to say:
“The wording of wedding invitations varies, depending upon who is hosting the wedding, i.e., the parents of the bride or groom. If the bride’s parents are hosting, then the phrase ‘the honor of your presence’ is correct. However, if you and your fiance (or other family members) are hosting the wedding, then the more modern terminology ‘the pleasure of your company’ is preferable.”
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