Aries (March 21-April 19): The work will be hard, but it’s the kind of hard you choose for yourself. Because this challenge was one of your own deciding, you’ll approach it with a glad heart and a willing hand. Taurus (April 20-May 20): People will tell you that the past doesn’t matter anymore. Incorrect. The past matters a great deal. It’s the foundation for what you’re building now. Sift, sort and reframe it if you have to, in the name of self-empowerment. Gemini (May 21-June 21): You’re willing to accept that you have to take on some of the dull or difficult work to better yourself. But does it have to be dull or difficult? Of course not. Get your fair share of fun in there. Cancer (June 22-July 22): Time to drop that person who makes you feel undeserving. You’re not doing anyone favors by feeling guilty for wanting to be your own person, live your own life and claim the freedom that is your birthright. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): You’re in a mood to compartmentalize, to devote yourself entirely to what you’re involved with, no looking back (or sideways, or forward for that matter). With this attitude, you’ll be mightily productive. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): If you have the privilege of spending time with one who has not yet been molded by society in the sense of right and wrong and its prejudices and manners, you will learn quite a lot. The under-8 set can be wonderful teachers. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): The most fun you’ll have today will be in doing something you’re more or less awful at. There’s something about knowing it’s not going to be good that will set free the laughter of your soul. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): People can be very unfair, self-serving and just plain strange in what they choose to acknowledge or ignore. If you’re not getting the validation you crave it may be because someone is threatened by your fabulousness. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): If your relationship is a muscle group, empathy is the dumbbell you need to lift again and again in order to strengthen it. Tired of being empathetic? Set it down. Shake it off. Take a break before you go another round. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Hard work doesn’t always pay off in the result it was aimed toward, but it always pays off in some way. Character, self-esteem, the attainment of skills and relationships — it will come back to you in some way, believe it.
Spend as much time as you can with people who live the way you want to live, who achieve the results you value and who make you feel good about what you have to offer. It’s a no-brainer, but it bears repeating. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): Serenity and attachment won’t go together today. The action of bonding will involve friction. You can still find happiness, though. Either accept that relationships are going to be emotionally taxing or opt for solitude.
To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/author/ holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> Is it wrong to drop off a 1- and a 5-yearold at a senior assisted-living center for their greatgrandmother to baby-sit in her room? My niece does this weekly, claiming she’s giving my mother “quality time” with her greatgrandchildren.
My mother is in the assistedliving center due to issues my dad is encountering. She’s very independent and, of course, wants to help any of her family whenever she can. But Mom has an autoimmune disease that flares up with stress or when she gets tired. I’m concerned about her health and feel my niece is taking advantage of her. Of course, my sister sides with her daughter. They have told me to butt out.
I don’t want to confront the management of the facility because I want Mom to feel as independent as possible there. I don’t want them to not allow her to do something she really wants to do. I have safety concerns, though, and feel this is not right. What do you think?
— Torn in Texas
DEAR TORN >> I’m not sure what your safety concerns are, but if you think the assisted-living center could be legally liable, you should address them to the manager.
As to the baby-sitting being too stressful or tiring for your mother, leave it up to her to decide if it’s too much. Some seniors find that feeling needed keeps them young. The way to gauge any negative impact on your mother’s health would be if it causes a flare-up of her condition — at which point her doctor should be notified so he/she can put a stop to it.
DEAR ABBY >> Are parents of the bride required to foot the cost of the wedding (averaging over $25,000 in the U.S. nowadays) anymore? I understand they were years ago, when it was a part of her dowry, but in modern times I have heard of such a thing only in your column — unless the family is rich and Daddy pays for everything.
I can’t imagine asking my parents to pay for my wedding. My fiance and I are aiming for — dress included — $1,000 or less. Are parents actually expected to spend thousands on their daughter’s wedding? It’s their daughter and son-in-law who want it. — Just asking in British
DEAR JUST ASKING >> No. A wedding is a GIFT, and while it would be generous for the parents to pitch in, there is no requirement that they do so. THOUGHT FOR THE DAY: The question now that really vexes
Is where we’re gonna place our “X”es.
Voting, folks, should not upset ya —
Be glad we’re livin’ where they let ya.
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