Aries (March 21-April 19): When people offer things to you in passing to seem generous, but then don’t give you the specifics about how you would take them up on their offer, call the bluff. Get into this! Taurus (April 20-May 20): You’ll be asking for things you and the people you represent really need and want. Learn your customer first. You’ll be successful when you let their habits dictate your timing. Gemini (May 21-June 21): This will be a day of constant re-investment. You’ll keep putting your riches into things and getting your riches plus more in return. The more you invest, the more prosperous you’ll be. Cancer (June 22-July 22): The amount of freedom you exercise in your life will be equal to the amount of freedom you exercise in your head. It will really help to think your way through the restrictions today. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): If you want to know what’s really hurting you, it’s the fence. Get off the fence! Make a commitment. Either side will do, really; it doesn’t matter. Either one will be better than sitting in the middle. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Your understanding will broaden. As this happens, suddenly you may question certain things you took for granted — like your freedom. How free are you really? Could you be freer? Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): It’s said that god helps those who help themselves. Maybe that’s a bleak view of things. Shouldn’t the help go to those who need it? If not, at least the unlucky have you — more compassionate than deities are rumored to be. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): That person who is blustering around and putting on a good show is hiding something. He’s not hiding something big, but he’s hiding an emptiness he’d rather you not know about. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): The best thing for your mood will be to let off steam a little bit at a time. This way you won’t build up in a blast and burn someone. Be the teakettle. Move yourself off the burner once you hear the whistle. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): What was fun and cute once is no longer. You have real needs that are not being met, and these distractions aren’t helping you get them met. You’ll get serious and truthful on the matter today.
Go on and state your terms. Negotiations are a dance, but you need to get onto the same dance floor as the other person in order to realize that you’re actually dancing together. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): The less you worry, the better. One way is not to think about it. Another way is to think better of it. A third way is to go on a long walk. And if that doesn’t work, there are at least a dozen other ways that will.
To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/author/ holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> I’m a divorced and remarried mother of two adult children. Both live on their own and have decent jobs. After the divorce, I managed to keep a roof over our heads, food on the table and provide college for my children. My ex-husband, their father, sporadically paid child support, which resulted in an arrearage owed for the past nine years.
Recently, I received a substantial sum of the balance I was owed for back child support. My dilemma is that my children feel that because their father is having financial problems (finances were always his issue), I should give the money back to him because I am financially secure.
Abby, they are ignoring everything I had to do to support them while they were still dependents and my responsibility. Add into that their health care, extracurricular activities, Christmases and birthdays, etc., when he said he didn’t have money.
I feel I have every right to keep the money. I have told this to my kids, but they are mad at me because I can’t seem to get the message across. Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
— Flustered in Florida
DEAR FLUSTERED >> You were divorced from this man for good reason. Your responsibility to him ended when the divorce was finalized. What you have received for shouldering the entire responsibility for raising your children is yours and yours alone. Do not apologize to anyone for what you prefer to do with the money. And for your sake, please don’t allow yourself to be trapped or guilted into doing anything against your better judgment.
DEAR ABBY >> I love my sister. She’s well-educated, intelligent and fun, but she has let herself go. We are both in our 60s and, unfortunately, those pesky whiskers are starting to appear on our faces. She recently had surgery and when I visited her, I noticed a lot of hairs sprouting from her chin. I offered to pluck them or take her to a spa and have them removed when she had a facial. She refused!
My friends and I have made a pact to pluck each other’s whiskers if we are ever in a hospital and can’t do it ourselves. Should I just let it go or, the next time I see her, remind her that many people would be put off if they saw her? Or is it just me? — Whiskerless sister
DEAR WHISKERLESS >> It’s not “just you.” Depilatories are popular because most American women wouldn’t want to be caught dead with obvious facial hair.
Your letter brought back memories, one of which was my mother telling me that her first executive assistant, Katie, had made Mama promise that in the event of Katie’s demise, Mama would bring a razor to the viewing and, while standing at the casket, “whisk” off her mustache so no one would see it.
Not knowing your sister, I can’t say whether she was in so much pain from her surgery that she didn’t want to add to it by being plucked. Talk to her again when she’s feeling better and she may offer up her chin. If not, love her the way she is — fur and all — because she’s happy that way.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.