Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dear Abby

Aries (March 21-April 19): When peo­ple of­fer things to you in pass­ing to seem gen­er­ous, but then don’t give you the specifics about how you would take them up on their of­fer, call the bluff. Get into this! Taurus (April 20-May 20): You’ll be ask­ing for things you and the peo­ple you rep­re­sent re­ally need and want. Learn your cus­tomer first. You’ll be suc­cess­ful when you let their habits dic­tate your tim­ing. Gemini (May 21-June 21): This will be a day of con­stant re-in­vest­ment. You’ll keep putting your riches into things and get­ting your riches plus more in re­turn. The more you in­vest, the more pros­per­ous you’ll be. Can­cer (June 22-July 22): The amount of free­dom you ex­er­cise in your life will be equal to the amount of free­dom you ex­er­cise in your head. It will re­ally help to think your way through the re­stric­tions to­day. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): If you want to know what’s re­ally hurt­ing you, it’s the fence. Get off the fence! Make a com­mit­ment. Ei­ther side will do, re­ally; it doesn’t mat­ter. Ei­ther one will be bet­ter than sit­ting in the mid­dle. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Your un­der­stand­ing will broaden. As this hap­pens, sud­denly you may ques­tion cer­tain things you took for granted — like your free­dom. How free are you re­ally? Could you be freer? Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): It’s said that god helps those who help them­selves. Maybe that’s a bleak view of things. Shouldn’t the help go to those who need it? If not, at least the un­lucky have you — more com­pas­sion­ate than deities are ru­mored to be. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): That per­son who is blus­ter­ing around and putting on a good show is hid­ing some­thing. He’s not hid­ing some­thing big, but he’s hid­ing an empti­ness he’d rather you not know about. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): The best thing for your mood will be to let off steam a lit­tle bit at a time. This way you won’t build up in a blast and burn some­one. Be the teaket­tle. Move your­self off the burner once you hear the whis­tle. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): What was fun and cute once is no longer. You have real needs that are not be­ing met, and these dis­trac­tions aren’t help­ing you get them met. You’ll get se­ri­ous and truth­ful on the mat­ter to­day.

Go on and state your terms. Ne­go­ti­a­tions are a dance, but you need to get onto the same dance floor as the other per­son in or­der to re­al­ize that you’re ac­tu­ally danc­ing to­gether. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): The less you worry, the bet­ter. One way is not to think about it. An­other way is to think bet­ter of it. A third way is to go on a long walk. And if that doesn’t work, there are at least a dozen other ways that will.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com/author/ hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> I’m a di­vorced and re­mar­ried mother of two adult chil­dren. Both live on their own and have de­cent jobs. After the di­vorce, I man­aged to keep a roof over our heads, food on the ta­ble and pro­vide col­lege for my chil­dren. My ex-hus­band, their fa­ther, spo­rad­i­cally paid child sup­port, which re­sulted in an ar­rear­age owed for the past nine years.

Re­cently, I re­ceived a sub­stan­tial sum of the bal­ance I was owed for back child sup­port. My dilemma is that my chil­dren feel that be­cause their fa­ther is hav­ing fi­nan­cial prob­lems (fi­nances were al­ways his is­sue), I should give the money back to him be­cause I am fi­nan­cially se­cure.

Abby, they are ig­nor­ing ev­ery­thing I had to do to sup­port them while they were still de­pen­dents and my re­spon­si­bil­ity. Add into that their health care, ex­tracur­ric­u­lar ac­tiv­i­ties, Christ­mases and birth­days, etc., when he said he didn’t have money.

I feel I have ev­ery right to keep the money. I have told this to my kids, but they are mad at me be­cause I can’t seem to get the mes­sage across. Your thoughts would be greatly ap­pre­ci­ated.

— Flus­tered in Florida

DEAR FLUS­TERED >> You were di­vorced from this man for good rea­son. Your re­spon­si­bil­ity to him ended when the di­vorce was fi­nal­ized. What you have re­ceived for shoul­der­ing the en­tire re­spon­si­bil­ity for rais­ing your chil­dren is yours and yours alone. Do not apol­o­gize to any­one for what you pre­fer to do with the money. And for your sake, please don’t al­low your­self to be trapped or guilted into do­ing any­thing against your bet­ter judg­ment.

DEAR ABBY >> I love my sis­ter. She’s well-ed­u­cated, in­tel­li­gent and fun, but she has let her­self go. We are both in our 60s and, un­for­tu­nately, those pesky whiskers are start­ing to ap­pear on our faces. She re­cently had surgery and when I vis­ited her, I no­ticed a lot of hairs sprout­ing from her chin. I of­fered to pluck them or take her to a spa and have them re­moved when she had a fa­cial. She re­fused!

My friends and I have made a pact to pluck each other’s whiskers if we are ever in a hos­pi­tal and can’t do it our­selves. Should I just let it go or, the next time I see her, re­mind her that many peo­ple would be put off if they saw her? Or is it just me? — Whisker­less sis­ter

DEAR WHISKER­LESS >> It’s not “just you.” Depi­la­to­ries are pop­u­lar be­cause most Amer­i­can women wouldn’t want to be caught dead with ob­vi­ous fa­cial hair.

Your let­ter brought back mem­o­ries, one of which was my mother telling me that her first ex­ec­u­tive as­sis­tant, Katie, had made Mama promise that in the event of Katie’s demise, Mama would bring a ra­zor to the view­ing and, while stand­ing at the cas­ket, “whisk” off her mus­tache so no one would see it.

Not know­ing your sis­ter, I can’t say whether she was in so much pain from her surgery that she didn’t want to add to it by be­ing plucked. Talk to her again when she’s feel­ing bet­ter and she may of­fer up her chin. If not, love her the way she is — fur and all — be­cause she’s happy that way.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

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