Friend enjoys a free ride with­out the slight­est thanks

Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

DEAR ABBY >> I am a re­tired air­line em­ployee, and I get passes for my friends and fam­ily. I re­cently pro­vided first-class-el­i­gi­ble round-trip passes from San Diego to Paris to my best friend and her friend. (The fare would have cost them thou­sands of dol­lars re­tail.) The only thing I asked in re­turn was to pick me up a menu, a print or something small that could be packed eas­ily.

They were in Paris for a month, Abby, and they to­tally for­got me. I am so hurt. Some­times I want to call them and tell them how I feel. Then I think it wouldn’t be a good idea. Frankly, I am an­gry. What is the best way to han­dle this? — Up in the air

DEAR UP IN THE AIR >> I don’t blame you for be­ing an­gry about the thought­less­ness and in­grat­i­tude they dis­played. Your feel­ings are jus­ti­fied, and you should clear the air by ex­plain­ing that you were hurt. You have ev­ery right to tell your friend how you feel. And the next time you are asked to give them a free ride, you have ev­ery right to just say “non.”

DEAR ABBY >> I’m hop­ing you can guide me on how to han­dle a sticky sit­u­a­tion with my neigh­bors.

My 9-year-old son has be­friended a kid his age. The boy is nice and I don’t mind him com­ing over. How­ever, he has a younger brother the par­ents al­ways send with him, and the boy is very hyper and ag­gres­sive. I work full time as a be­hav­ior spe­cial­ist and deal with hy­per­ac­tive chil­dren all day. The last thing I want when I come home is a hyper child I can­not par­ent.

My son re­cently in­vited his friend to sleep over, and the par­ents sent both boys. How do I let them know that some­times just the older brother is wel­come with­out hurt­ing their feel­ings? — Not want­ing to offend

DEAR NOT WANT­ING >> Hurt­ing their feel­ings? The par­ents are using your in­vi­ta­tions to the older boy as a baby-sit­ting op­por­tu­nity for the younger one. I don’t think it would be rude to tell them you can han­dle only one child at a time, and to please re­frain from send­ing the lit­tle brother to your home un­less he is specif­i­cally in­vited.

DEAR ABBY >> I am strug­gling with trust in my re­la­tion­ships. I haven’t found a faith­ful man in any of the re­la­tion­ships I’ve had in the last five years, and it has made me gun shy. Now, each time I try to date, I look for any small in­di­ca­tion that he could be cheat­ing, which leads to jeal­ousy and drives men away.

How do I learn to trust again? Should I delete all so­cial me­dia? Should I just stop try­ing to date al­to­gether? I am so frus­trated and tired of get­ting hurt. — Wounded in Min­nesota

DEAR WOUNDED >> Putting our­selves out there is risky. There can be many dis­ap­point­ments be­fore a per­son finds the right match. (Men also be­come frus­trated and gun shy.)

Your luck might im­prove if you be­come se­ri­ous less quickly and let re­la­tion­ships evolve with­out look­ing for com­mit­ment or signs of be­trayal. If a man acts re­spon­si­bly, does what he says he will and treats you with re­spect, give him the ben­e­fit of the doubt and the chances are your luck may change. If you’re un­able to do this, some ses­sions with a li­censed pro­fes­sional coun­selor may help.

Dear Abby

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