Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dear Abby

Aries (March 21-April 19): You are en­ti­tled to pro­ject your own sense of or­der on this beau­ti­ful chaos. Why ac­cept other views as the way it’s sup­posed to be done? That’s their way, and this is yours. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Do you be­lieve in psy­chic gunk? Be­cause sometimes when you go out in the world, you ac­tu­ally feel like there’s a film of bad en­ergy get­ting trans­ferred to you. Look for tools to help you brush off the ac­cu­mu­lated residue of karma. Gemini (May 21-June 21): To be thought­ful and kind is the most im­por­tant goal. This one goal, in the front of your mind, will or­ga­nize the rest of your thoughts. It will make the com­pli­ca­tions align into sim­ple prob­lems to be sys­tem­at­i­cally solved. Can­cer (June 22-July 22): When you’re in your fan mode, you are daz­zled by what’s pop­u­lar, sell­ing and being sup­ported and ac­claimed. When you’re in com­pe­ti­tion mode, you know that these things only sig­nal: “It’s on!” Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Are you feel­ing what’s out­side you or what’s in­side you? This can be con­fus­ing for one as em­pa­thetic as you are, and that goes dou­ble when there are peo­ple close to you feel­ing in­tense emo­tions. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): You’ve come to con­sider syn­chronic­ity as more than some­thing that hap­pens to you on a reg­u­lar ba­sis; it’s an as­pect of who you are. You’ll ex­pe­ri­ence a most fa­vor­able co­in­ci­dence to­day. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Fig­ure out what you need, and ask for it. Don’t wait on this one. You may find your­self lack­ing cer­tain re­sources and this, if left unchecked, will take a phys­i­cal and emo­tional toll. Get what you need. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Peo­ple will gather in tight cir­cles to gab about what’s wrong. Sel­dom do they as­sem­ble in such a way to ex­press what’s won­der­ful. Be the one to bring peo­ple to­gether to cel­e­brate all that’s go­ing right. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Cook food. Walk the earth. Put your hands in dirt. Get grounded. Oth­er­wise, this sense of light­ness you’re ex­pe­ri­enc­ing can cause you to float up emo­tion­ally and dis­con­nect from peo­ple who need your at­ten­tion. Capri­corn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): The fo­cus will go to a re­la­tion­ship in its early stages. Whether the re­la­tion­ship is ori­ented to­ward busi­ness or plea­sure, the heart con­nec­tion is what will mat­ter. It needs to feel right — for­get what it looks like on paper. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Char­ac­ter de­vel­op­ment of­ten hap­pens through hard­ship, though it’s harder to be strong in good times. You’ll man­age such a re­mark­able feat of grace. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You con­nect to oth­ers, rais­ing their spir­its and your own in the process. If it’s all you ac­com­plish to­day, count your­self among the most ac­com­plished peo­ple there are.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.creators.com/ author/hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> My daugh­ter and son-in-law have only one ve­hi­cle that is run­ning. He works out of town, so he drives it, which leaves my daugh­ter home all day with­out trans­porta­tion.

Ear­lier in the school year, they signed up my grand­daugh­ter for af­ter-school sports and she has to prac­tice ev­ery day. Since my daugh­ter has no way to take her, they ex­pect me to pick up my grand­daugh­ter and bring her home. This means I have to wait for her for about an hour af­ter I get off work, which de­lays me an hour or more get­ting home.

Af­ter work­ing all day, I’m tired. I just want to get home and get all the things done that I need to do, so I can rest and get ready for work again the next day. I’m not sure what I should do. I feel like I’m being taken ad­van­tage of. Any ad­vice you can give will be greatly ap­pre­ci­ated! — Tired and used

DEAR TIRED >> This shouldn’t be your re­spon­si­bil­ity. When your daugh­ter and son-in-law signed up the child for sports, they should have thought it through. Rather than impose upon you, per­haps they should ask the par­ents of other chil­dren in the pro­gram if your grand­daugh­ter could ride along.

If that’s not fea­si­ble, con­sider this: You stated that your son-in-law drives the only run­ning ve­hi­cle, which leads me to be­lieve they have an­other one that’s bro­ken down. Could you loan or give them money to put it in work­ing con­di­tion? If so, you would be off the hook.

DEAR ABBY >> I’m the man­ager of a medium-sized apart­ment build­ing with sev­eral older ten­ants. As these ten­ants get older, their needs be­come greater. When it’s time for the chil­dren and fam­ily to step in, not ALL do. Some think — and have ac­tu­ally told me — that giv­ing the man­ager $20 at Christ­mas will en­sure that Mom/Dad gets to the gro­cery store, bank and doc­tor, and the bills are paid all year.

Abby, this is not my fam­ily, and I do not feel ob­li­gated to take them to run their er­rands. Their chil­dren then tell me, “What am sup­posed to do? I don’t have time,” etc., and I re­ply that it’s their re­spon­si­bil­ity, not mine.

Is there a le­gal means to make them take care of their own? Threat­en­ing to have them charged with el­der abuse doesn’t al­ways work. — Not a day care or re­tire­ment


DEAR NOT A DAY CARE >> If you’re feel­ing char­i­ta­ble, make a list of var­i­ous re­sources for se­niors in your com­mu­nity and of­fer the in­for­ma­tion to the “chil­dren.” Fur­ther, ne­glect­ing a vul­ner­a­ble, el­derly par­ent is con­sid­ered el­der abuse, and if that’s what’s go­ing on, you shouldn’t “threaten.” You should report it to your county adult pro­tec­tive ser­vices of­fice.

DEAR ABBY >> I was en­gaged to a man for seven years. Two weeks af­ter we cel­e­brated our sev­enth an­niver­sary, he de­cided he didn’t love me any­more. We parted a year ago, but he has been tex­ting me, pick­ing me up from work and tak­ing me to lunch or din­ner quite a lot lately. We spent one night to­gether, but since then, he hasn’t con­tacted me. What should I do? — Try­ing to make sense of it in


DEAR TRY­ING >> Rec­og­nize that your for­mer fi­ance has the sen­si­tiv­ity of a rock. Ac­cept that a re­ward­ing re­la­tion­ship with him is not in the cards, move on and stop look­ing back.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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