Aries (March 21-April 19): Life is not a reality TV show where you’re either “in” or you’re “out.” Relationships often go along indefinitely, a little up-in-theair, with various degrees of involvement. Don’t be in a rush to categorize where you’re at with people. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Keeping yourself safe from harm includes controlling the distance between you and people you love or could possibly love. It might help to think of yourself as a scientist, collecting data. Gemini (May 21-June 21): You’re willing to fall in love with an idea, and you’re just as willing to step back and say, “This is not the right choice for me.” From this position you’ll make stellar decisions that favor your longterm happiness. Cancer (June 22-July 22): To make an emotional investment today will be riskier than other kinds of investing. It will also be more difficult to recover from if it doesn’t go right. That’s why what you’re doing is mighty brave. Give yourself more credit for taking the risk. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): You may not like the notions being brought to the table, but let them air anyway to discover how strong they really are. The censor will lose in the end because strong ideas find the fuel to keep the fire alive. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): You’re not here to close the deal at all costs. You’re here to make the deal that’s right for you. This should include the higher good, but don’t get overly wrapped up in the other person’s side of it today. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): It would be fun to have certain people for friends, but alas, there are appropriate friendships and inappropriate friendships, and those who can’t figure out the difference are asking for trouble. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): There’s no time for critique or complaint today. If you’re walking around lamenting all that’s wrong with society, you’ll be distracted from the fact that you get to choose how to make this world better. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Someone will make you proud to be a leader and mentor. You don’t ask anyone to be perfect; you just ask them to show up and try. When they knock it out of the park, you’ll beam. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Nothing you experience will go to waste. Your mind will be keen to pick up on the kind of details you can use to solve a problem. You’ll be a regular Sherlock Holmes! Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): You haven’t always been able to say that you like your life, but now you can, and this will be reflected in your activities of the day. You’ll agree to propositions that look, sound and feel “so you.” Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): There’s more being asked of you, so some of your usual self-care activities might slip through the cracks now, but the sacrifices you make will be worthwhile. Besides, you can catch up tomorrow.
To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators. com/author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> I recently started seeing a self-made entrepreneur. He’s intelligent, and basically the most amazing man I have ever been with.
Because of his position and stature, many beautiful and sophisticated women throw themselves at him. A friend of his told me that in the months that I’ve known him, he has had sex with at least five other women, several on the first date.
I’m not angry about it since we never formally agreed to be exclusive, but I’m in love with him and want him all to myself. When I confronted him, he said that because he never had success with women previously, he is prone to seduction. He said they didn’t mean anything to him and that he wants to be with me.
I have dropped the matter for now, but I’m still concerned. I have tried to step up my game in the bedroom, and I’m willing to do anything to stop him from looking elsewhere. How do I make him give up his harem?
— Willing to do anything
DEAR WILLING TO DO ANYTHING >> I wish you had more clearly defined what “prone to seduction” means. Was he saying that because years ago he had little success with women he is enjoying the attention?
While you may be willing to “do anything” to have him all to yourself, if this man craves variety and is trying to make up for lost time, there’s nothing you can do to dissuade him. The two of you appear to be at very different places in your lives. If you want a man who is willing to have an exclusive relationship, you’re going to have to look elsewhere.
DEAR ABBY >> I was just offered a HUGE promotion at my company. It will mean more than a 40 percent increase in pay, which is unheard of in my company, which has more than 10,000 employees. People in my department are not taking it well. Even my director did not congratulate me.
Taking on this new endeavor kind of scares me. I have had a tough year in my current position, and this new job is seriously tailored to me. My current manager — who is new to the department — feels this job was meant for me. She says I need a fresh start, and she has faith in me.
What’s awkward is, the position involves working with some of the same people I worked with previously, although in a different capacity. Am I taking on too much? I know the team I will be working with, and I have a feeling I will love it. I’m just scared of setting myself up for failure. My boss and new manager are giving me a great opportunity, and I don’t want to let anyone down. — Unsure in the Midwest
DEAR UNSURE >> If your boss and new manager didn’t feel you were capable of taking on the new assignment, they could have offered the job to the numerous other people at the company. Your former director may not have congratulated you because he/she was jealous, so do not take the silence to heart.
As to your fear that you won’t succeed, all you can do is give it your best and keep moving forward. If you do that, you won’t let anybody down — including yourself.
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