Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dear Abby

Aries (March 21-April 19): Life is not a re­al­ity TV show where you’re ei­ther “in” or you’re “out.” Re­la­tion­ships of­ten go along in­def­i­nitely, a lit­tle up-in-theair, with var­i­ous de­grees of in­volve­ment. Don’t be in a rush to cat­e­go­rize where you’re at with peo­ple. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Keep­ing your­self safe from harm in­cludes con­trol­ling the distance be­tween you and peo­ple you love or could pos­si­bly love. It might help to think of your­self as a scientist, col­lect­ing data. Gemini (May 21-June 21): You’re will­ing to fall in love with an idea, and you’re just as will­ing to step back and say, “This is not the right choice for me.” From this po­si­tion you’ll make stel­lar de­ci­sions that fa­vor your longterm hap­pi­ness. Can­cer (June 22-July 22): To make an emo­tional in­vest­ment to­day will be riskier than other kinds of in­vest­ing. It will also be more dif­fi­cult to re­cover from if it doesn’t go right. That’s why what you’re do­ing is mighty brave. Give your­self more credit for tak­ing the risk. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): You may not like the no­tions being brought to the ta­ble, but let them air any­way to dis­cover how strong they re­ally are. The cen­sor will lose in the end be­cause strong ideas find the fuel to keep the fire alive. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): You’re not here to close the deal at all costs. You’re here to make the deal that’s right for you. This should in­clude the higher good, but don’t get overly wrapped up in the other per­son’s side of it to­day. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): It would be fun to have cer­tain peo­ple for friends, but alas, there are ap­pro­pri­ate friend­ships and in­ap­pro­pri­ate friend­ships, and those who can’t fig­ure out the dif­fer­ence are ask­ing for trou­ble. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): There’s no time for cri­tique or com­plaint to­day. If you’re walk­ing around lament­ing all that’s wrong with so­ci­ety, you’ll be dis­tracted from the fact that you get to choose how to make this world bet­ter. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Some­one will make you proud to be a leader and men­tor. You don’t ask any­one to be perfect; you just ask them to show up and try. When they knock it out of the park, you’ll beam. Capri­corn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Noth­ing you ex­pe­ri­ence will go to waste. Your mind will be keen to pick up on the kind of de­tails you can use to solve a prob­lem. You’ll be a reg­u­lar Sher­lock Holmes! Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): You haven’t al­ways been able to say that you like your life, but now you can, and this will be re­flected in your ac­tiv­i­ties of the day. You’ll agree to propo­si­tions that look, sound and feel “so you.” Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): There’s more being asked of you, so some of your usual self-care ac­tiv­i­ties might slip through the cracks now, but the sac­ri­fices you make will be worth­while. Be­sides, you can catch up to­mor­row.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.creators. com/author/hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> I re­cently started see­ing a self-made en­tre­pre­neur. He’s in­tel­li­gent, and ba­si­cally the most amazing man I have ever been with.

Be­cause of his po­si­tion and stature, many beau­ti­ful and so­phis­ti­cated women throw them­selves at him. A friend of his told me that in the months that I’ve known him, he has had sex with at least five other women, sev­eral on the first date.

I’m not an­gry about it since we never for­mally agreed to be ex­clu­sive, but I’m in love with him and want him all to my­self. When I con­fronted him, he said that be­cause he never had suc­cess with women pre­vi­ously, he is prone to se­duc­tion. He said they didn’t mean any­thing to him and that he wants to be with me.

I have dropped the mat­ter for now, but I’m still con­cerned. I have tried to step up my game in the bed­room, and I’m will­ing to do any­thing to stop him from look­ing else­where. How do I make him give up his harem?

— Will­ing to do any­thing

DEAR WILL­ING TO DO ANY­THING >> I wish you had more clearly de­fined what “prone to se­duc­tion” means. Was he say­ing that be­cause years ago he had lit­tle suc­cess with women he is en­joy­ing the at­ten­tion?

While you may be will­ing to “do any­thing” to have him all to your­self, if this man craves va­ri­ety and is try­ing to make up for lost time, there’s noth­ing you can do to dis­suade him. The two of you ap­pear to be at very dif­fer­ent places in your lives. If you want a man who is will­ing to have an ex­clu­sive re­la­tion­ship, you’re go­ing to have to look else­where.

DEAR ABBY >> I was just of­fered a HUGE pro­mo­tion at my com­pany. It will mean more than a 40 per­cent in­crease in pay, which is un­heard of in my com­pany, which has more than 10,000 em­ploy­ees. Peo­ple in my de­part­ment are not tak­ing it well. Even my di­rec­tor did not con­grat­u­late me.

Tak­ing on this new en­deavor kind of scares me. I have had a tough year in my cur­rent po­si­tion, and this new job is se­ri­ously tai­lored to me. My cur­rent man­ager — who is new to the de­part­ment — feels this job was meant for me. She says I need a fresh start, and she has faith in me.

What’s awk­ward is, the po­si­tion in­volves work­ing with some of the same peo­ple I worked with pre­vi­ously, although in a dif­fer­ent ca­pac­ity. Am I tak­ing on too much? I know the team I will be work­ing with, and I have a feel­ing I will love it. I’m just scared of set­ting my­self up for fail­ure. My boss and new man­ager are giv­ing me a great op­por­tu­nity, and I don’t want to let any­one down. — Un­sure in the Mid­west

DEAR UN­SURE >> If your boss and new man­ager didn’t feel you were ca­pa­ble of tak­ing on the new as­sign­ment, they could have of­fered the job to the nu­mer­ous other peo­ple at the com­pany. Your for­mer di­rec­tor may not have con­grat­u­lated you be­cause he/she was jeal­ous, so do not take the si­lence to heart.

As to your fear that you won’t suc­ceed, all you can do is give it your best and keep mov­ing for­ward. If you do that, you won’t let any­body down — in­clud­ing your­self.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

Good ad­vice for everyone — teens to se­niors — is in “The Anger in All of Us and How to Deal With It.” To or­der, send your name and mail­ing ad­dress, plus check or money or­der for $7 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby, Anger Book­let, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. (Ship­ping and han­dling are in­cluded in the price.)

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