Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): Your love is a rare and beautiful gift best invested where it can be appreciated. If you’re not getting feedback that you’re appreciated, then you’re probably not. You deserve better! Go find it. Taurus (April 20-May 20): If you got into love a little deeper than was good for you, you have it in you to save your own heart like a hero. Of course, it’s a lot easier just to choose the right people upfront — people who can love you back and just as hard. Gemini (May 21-June 21): People on the offense will make moves to defend themselves, and this creates conflict. So if you want avoid conflict, refrain from threatening people’s beliefs, possessions or position. Cancer (June 22-July 22): In order for something to make you happy, you must really feel as though you’ve earned it. When you’re putting in the quality attention and work, even the tiniest things can bring you a great sense of accomplishment and elation. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): You love your friends and family, but the most satisfying relationships featured today will be with mere acquaintance. When people barely known to you do kind things, it restores your trust in the good of humanity. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): A deeper look into your possessions will reveal what you have, what you thought you’d lost and what you’d totally forgotten about. It will also help you avoid making unnecessary purchases in the future. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): “Taking stock” is a term used by merchants accounting for their wares to track what’s available, what’s been sold, ordered, broken or stolen. Take stock of current resources, material and immaterial; you’ll soon reopen “shop.” Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): For whatever reason, others seem fine with all that’s going on. But everyone is different. Suddenly you’ll feel creative. This is a response to discomfort — your way of trying to cope or adapt to conditions that don’t naturally suit you. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Do people really belong to each other? It depends on whom you ask. This will be the question at the heart of the action: To what extent do and/or should you allow yourself to be controlled by others? Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): You’ll combat difficult people with tolerance, acceptance and love. You’ll win with this approach, not a trophy or a monetary award but something more valuable: peace and self-respect. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): You like people, but you also thrive on solitude. Lately, you haven’t had enough tranquility to do the deep thinking that connects you with the most intelligent and creative parts of yourself. Arrange for it! Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): Follow instructions and you’ll be a hit with the boss. Whether the “boss” in this instance is a friend, a partner or your actual boss, deference to authority is a skill that will serve the whole team well today. DEAR ABBY » My brother-in-law “Charles” has earned the privilege of being buried in a military cemetery. He lost his wife, “Claire,” to cancer 10 years ago; she is buried in their plot in the military cemetery with a headstone. Their children are all adults now.

Charles has been seriously dating a divorcee, “Joyce,” and they are talking about marriage. Joyce feels that for him to be committed to her in marriage, they should have a plot together. It’s our understanding that only one wife is allowed to be buried in the military cemetery. This would mean Claire would have to be exhumed and transferred to another one.

I’m not sure how close Joyce is to her family, but she does have grown children. I suggested they get an outside opinion and a prenuptial agreement before they get married, which both would be agreeable to. What have others done in similar situations? — Concerned in New

Hampshire

DEAR CONCERNED » There are different types of military cemeteries in this country, 135 of which are maintained by the Department of Veterans Affairs National Cemetery Administration. (None of them are located in your state.) However, there are many state and private military cemeteries nationwide, and their rules may differ from those of the national. Because you didn’t mention which category your brother-in-law’s cemetery falls under, the best advice I can offer is to contact it and find out what its rules are in circumstances like this.

DEAR ABBY » I tend to be a people pleaser. So when my wife wanted to buy a home for us to raise a family in, I went along with her plan to move to her hometown. I wanted her to be happy, and I was excited about the home-purchasing process.

It’s almost two years later, and I regret it. I’m not happy here. I miss my hometown where all my friends and family live. It’s a beach town, a throwback to a time when everyone knew everyone and you could walk or bike-ride anywhere. People don’t lock their doors, and homes are insulated from the streets and traffic, so kids can play freely outside. To me, it’s the perfect town.

But there is no convincing my wife to try giving my hometown a shot as our fulltime residence. Despite knowing we will never be able to own a summer house there, that’s the “dream” my wife sells to me. I resent her because she got what she wants, and I just have to deal with it. Should I just accept my fate?

— Resentful in New York

DEAR RESENTFUL » I am sorry you are unhappy with the decision you made. Your wife may have wanted to move to her hometown because she felt her relatives could help out with your children, which is a plus. However, unless you find the strength to assert yourself, “accepting your fate” is exactly what you may have to do.

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