Author to present ‘No Ego’ approach
In a push to cultivate leadership and bring more people downtown, major Dayton players including the Victoria Theatre Association and the University of Dayton Center for Leadership have created a speaker series that will bring wellknown national business leaders to the region.
The series is a partnership between the UD Center for Leadership, the Dayton Development Coalition and the Victoria Theatre Association and is sponsored by Premier Health.
Cy Wakeman, who will speak Tuesday, is a New York Times best-selling author and international keynote speaker with over 25 years experience cultivating a new approach to leadership, according to her biography. She was named one of the “Top 100 Leadership Experts to Follow” on Twitter.
Wakeman’s newest book, “No Ego,” asserts that ego-driven behaviors are the No. 1 source of drama in workplaces today, and it’s costing organizations billions annually. This news organization asked her about leadership: 1. What is “reality-based” leadership?
Reality-based leadership is a philosophy by which leaders work to eliminate drama or emotional waste from the workplace through teaching and holding others accountable to using great mental processes. It’s focused on ditching the drama ... and turning excuses into results by getting employees fluent in accountable practices.
2. What is one concrete step that a leader can take to eliminate workplace drama?
Leaders coach the people in front of them (not group coaching via email or team meeting) so that these individuals can approach their challenges from a much different perspective and with greater skillfulness. Leaders use tools and mental processes that they teach, and facilitate the application of the tools to find breakthroughs to daily challenges.
One of the sets of tools is a series of questions that enable people to bypass the ego and get right into self-reflection and accountability. For instance, when someone is upset, a simple question such as, “What do you know for sure?” and “What could you do next to add value?” will help the individual move into self-reflection, edit their story, and get clear about reality.
3. How can leaders get over their own ego and lead without entitlement?
Moving beyond ego is advancing to a place of self-reflection. You can get there by asking yourself some simple questions like: “Am I working harder to be right than happy?” “What would ‘great’ look like?”
4. What is the most important lesson you’ve learned about leadership?
That most of our stress comes from the story we make up about our reality, not the reality itself.