Don’t let life’s disruptions derail your dreams - Jeanine DeHoney
Thanks to your determination, discipline and faith, everything is going as intended in your life. Your grades are on point, you aced that audition, track or swimming meet, or got that internship of your dreams. But then like a set of dominoes purposely knocked down, something happens to throw you off course. Your life has suddenly been “disrupted.” Life’s disruptions can be due to a personal, family, financial crisis or loss. All are unsettling and can leave you feeling hopeless and dispirited. During life’s disruptions it’s easy to get discouraged and distracted from your goals as you deal with a range of emotions. Although your circumstances may cause you to ask, “Why did this happen to me or why now at this time in my life when my light is shining?” You can’t allow yourself to become unhinged and linger in a state of sadness, anger, grief or frustration indefinitely. Life’s disruptions are unavoidable. You have to keep yourself afloat in spite of these unwelcomed moments that sting you emotionally. You have to know you are woven with strong threads that can withstand the yanks and pulls in life; that when your life gets disrupted, you gain gems of wisdom and growth even in your loss and setbacks. There is an inspirational quote that says, “A setback is a setup for a comeback.” This is an empowering quote to remember when you are facing a life disruption, along with the following tips. Reflect: Set time aside time during a quiet part of your day to reflect on your dilemma. Was there anything you could have done to prevent it, and if not, what have you learned by going through it? What is your takeaway? What has humbled you? What insights have you gained about your strength and virtues? Regroup: Regrouping is Part Two of reflection. Now that you have reflected on your problem, what can you do to regain your faith and confidence back? Maybe you can write down a new agenda or strategy to accomplish your goals for each day as you press forward; no matter how miniscule they are until your emotions are less scattered. Your agenda may even be to just add more laughter in your life by watching your favorite comedian or to spend time with a good friend. Practice self- care: Having so much on your plate can leave you anxious as it is but, when you’re facing other fears or uncertainties it can truly be detrimental to you. When your life has been disrupted, make sure you practice self- care, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Eat nutritious foods and cut out sugary drinks and replenish yourself with water…, lots of it. Don’t close yourself off from the world or others. Seek the company of supportive friends, family members or mentors to talk to. See the rainbow at the end of the tunnel. Your emotions are often foggy when your life gets disrupted by a disheartening circumstance. What you must hold onto though, is the fact that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You will see that light each time no matter what you go through. Help someone else: Share your story, experience and lessons with someone else. It is not only therapeutic for your soul as you move forward; it can help lessen someone else’s burden. Live optimistically: Don’t let life’s disruptions cause you to live with a spirit of hopelessness, not fully celebrating your successes because you fear that something bad will happen. Try to live in total joy, peace and expectation. Live a life that expects the best knowing you deserve the best.