Sim­ple Ways To Cel­e­brate Valentine’s Day Year-Round

Escalon Times - - LIVING -

As Valentine’s Day ap­proaches, men ev­ery­where are mak­ing din­ner reser­va­tions and buy­ing choco­lates for their on­cea-year-ef­fort to be more romantic. But as wonderful as Valentine’s Day is, there’s no need to wait for a spe­cial oc­ca­sion to add siz­zle back to a re­la­tion­ship, said Drexel Gil­bert, au­thor of 30 Days to Bet­ter Love: A Guide for Men (www.drex­el­gilbert.com).

Men who haven’t given as much at­ten­tion to their sig­nif­i­cant other as they should can reignite the ro­mance at any time through sim­ple and in­ex­pen­sive ac­tions.

“You don’t have to plan a Euro­pean get­away to let your wife know how spe­cial she is to you,” Gil­bert said.

In­stead, she sug­gests:

• Give her flow­ers ev­ery day for a month. Women love to re­ceive flow­ers even if some of them in­sist they don’t. It needn’t al­ways be a bou­quet. It can be a sin­gle flower. It can be a flower picked from your own gar­den. “In a pinch, it can even be a daisy you draw on a piece of pa­per and leave with a sweet note on the kitchen counter,” Gil­bert said.

• Sit be­side her. If you’re sit­ting in an easy chair while your wife is on the sofa it’s time to make a move. Sit be­side her as you watch tele­vi­sion, en­ter­tain guests, read, talk or lis­ten to mu­sic. “A psy­chol­o­gist once told me that a cou­ple’s phys­i­cal dis­tance im­plies the level of their emo­tional dis­tance,” Gil­bert said. “He also said that cou­ples who rou­tinely sit be­side each other are likely to be more af­fec­tion­ate in their re­la­tion­ship.”

• Talk to her. This one is ex­cep­tion­ally easy – or at least should be in the­ory. In re­al­ity, while a lot of talk­ing goes on in re­la­tion­ships, it’s of­ten about the kids, bills, chores, ca­reers or car re­pairs. Gil­bert sug­gests mak­ing a con­scious ef­fort to have more mean­ing­ful con­ver­sa­tions. Watch a movie to­gether and talk about why you did or didn’t like it. Af­ter church, talk about the ser­mon and how it might ap­ply to your lives. As you drive down the road, turn off the radio and ask her opin­ion about some­thing that’s im­por­tant to you. “And the sec­ond part of that is re­ally lis­ten to what she has to say,” Gil­bert said.

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