Simple Ways To Celebrate Valentine’s Day Year-Round
As Valentine’s Day approaches, men everywhere are making dinner reservations and buying chocolates for their oncea-year-effort to be more romantic. But as wonderful as Valentine’s Day is, there’s no need to wait for a special occasion to add sizzle back to a relationship, said Drexel Gilbert, author of 30 Days to Better Love: A Guide for Men (www.drexelgilbert.com).
Men who haven’t given as much attention to their significant other as they should can reignite the romance at any time through simple and inexpensive actions.
“You don’t have to plan a European getaway to let your wife know how special she is to you,” Gilbert said.
Instead, she suggests:
• Give her flowers every day for a month. Women love to receive flowers even if some of them insist they don’t. It needn’t always be a bouquet. It can be a single flower. It can be a flower picked from your own garden. “In a pinch, it can even be a daisy you draw on a piece of paper and leave with a sweet note on the kitchen counter,” Gilbert said.
• Sit beside her. If you’re sitting in an easy chair while your wife is on the sofa it’s time to make a move. Sit beside her as you watch television, entertain guests, read, talk or listen to music. “A psychologist once told me that a couple’s physical distance implies the level of their emotional distance,” Gilbert said. “He also said that couples who routinely sit beside each other are likely to be more affectionate in their relationship.”
• Talk to her. This one is exceptionally easy – or at least should be in theory. In reality, while a lot of talking goes on in relationships, it’s often about the kids, bills, chores, careers or car repairs. Gilbert suggests making a conscious effort to have more meaningful conversations. Watch a movie together and talk about why you did or didn’t like it. After church, talk about the sermon and how it might apply to your lives. As you drive down the road, turn off the radio and ask her opinion about something that’s important to you. “And the second part of that is really listen to what she has to say,” Gilbert said.