Find yourself a no-nonsense role model
“Ask yourself, Who are the people in my life that I know get treated the way I’d like to be treated?” suggests Desmond. Perhaps there’s a coworker who never seems to be targeted by the office bully, or a neighbor who always seems to receive letters of permission rather than denial from the homeowners association. “Think about the kind of relationships this person has and recognize that it’s possible for you to be treated that way too,” Desmond asserts. You may notice that your colleague never apologizes when voicing her opinions, and the guy next door might refuse to back down until his needs get met. Using their habits as inspiration, you can hone your assertiveness and reclaim your self-worth.