Simple trick to curb anger
After a mean remark from your sister-in-law leaves you fuming, get centered by mentally talking to yourself about your feelings in the third person (She’s upset but just needs a minute to cool off) instead of the first person (I’m upset…). In a recent study in the journal Scientific Reports, researchers analyzed subjects’ brain scans as they looked at a series of upsetting pictures. When viewers used “I” to reflect on what they saw, they stayed stressed-out— but after switching to the third person, they calmed down within one second. The researchers explain that this technique helps us get distance from intense emotions, improving self-control.