How to Re­duce Anger and Build Con­nec­tion Us­ing Mind­ful­ness and Pos­i­tive Psy­chol­ogy

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Mitch R. Ab­blett, New Har­bin­ger Soft­cover $16.95 (176pp), 978-1-62625-576-0

Deal­ing with an an­gry child is com­plex and of­ten even scary. In Help­ing Your An­gry Teen, Mitch R. Ab­blett, PHD, teaches par­ents to form new path­ways of con­nec­tiv­ity to their teens through mind­ful­ness and pos­i­tive think­ing and act­ing. It of­fers spe­cific tech­niques and bril­liant in­sight into learn­ing to help young peo­ple caught in of­ten de­struc­tive cy­cles of anger.

Rather than try­ing to solve what­ever prob­lems are caus­ing a teenager to be an­gry, the book fo­cuses on what a par­ent can do to im­prove com­mu­ni­ca­tion and re­spond to anger with pres­ence, un­der­stand­ing, re­spon­sive leadership, and em­pow­er­ment. The au­thor calls this the PURE method of com­mu­ni­ca­tion, and it is the cen­tral idea of this book. Once a par­ent de­vel­ops the abil­ity to stay mind­ful of their thoughts and ac­tions when their teenager is an­gry, they will learn to see be­yond that anger to the au­then­tic is­sues that are driv­ing it. They can then own any part they may have con­trib­uted to their child’s is­sues and demon­strate ap­pro­pri­ate, re­spect­ful re­sponses. Fi­nally, they can help their teenager make what­ever changes are needed.

The tech­niques de­scribed in this book in­clude a great deal of med­i­ta­tion, self-ex­plo­ration, and learn­ing to look at prob­lems in a new light. Each step of the PURE process is care­fully ex­plained, and the ex­er­cises are ef­fec­tive and even en­light­en­ing. There is no blame handed out and no judge­ment of par­ent or child. The au­thor clearly has a great deal of com­pas­sion for trou­bled teens: “The kids who swear, kick, punch, refuse, and fail, are ‘em­pa­thy hard.’ What’s cru­cial to un­der­stand, how­ever, is these ‘un­ruly’ kids are no less de­serv­ing of em­pa­thy.”

Help­ing Your An­gry Teen is a use­ful re­source for par­ents want­ing to learn to im­prove their com­mu­ni­ca­tion with their teenagers. The tech­niques and prac­tices sug­gested in this book will un­doubt­edly help im­prove any­one’s abil­ity to com­mu­ni­cate ef­fec­tively in the face of anger and may also im­prove their over­all well-be­ing.

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