The Ch’ai Life
Britta Lokting On Dating
Last spring, I found myself sitting in the Hilton in midtown Manhattan with three other women and a matchmaker, discussing the actor version of our perfect man. I said Jason Segel because he’s funny and lovable. I had come to this initial group interview to research a potential story, but also out of personal interest — maybe I would get paired with someone. But as I sat there listening to two women gossip about whether or not a mutual male friend was cute, I realized this was the “girl talk” and sense of friendship I had been yearning for. In my previous relationship, my friends were my boyfriend’s friends. For three years, I went to his parties, watched TV with his roommates and spent the Fourth of July playing Wiffle ball with his high school buddies. After we broke up, I was free to hang with whomever I wanted.