Rev. Maressa Pendermon
Unity Fellowship Church
When and how did you come out?
Coming out for me is an ongoing process as opposed to a specific event. I came out to myself and my maternal grandmother when I was 11 years old. I came out to most of my family and friends in my 20s.
Then in my 30s I came out to myself and others who were interested as same-sex attracted and un-apologetically Christian. I am 48 years old now and I suspect that my journey will take me to places where I will have to come out again and again.
How did religion play a role in you coming out?
Religion delayed my ability to come out publicly and to accept my coming out to myself because my religion had taught me to hate who I am. I spent several years trying to be straight and/or trying to die.
Then my relationship with God compelled me to live authentically. It is one thing to be led by the rules of religion and quite another to be led by the Spirit that is Love.