The queer (dis) abil­i­ties of An­gela and Evan

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“I would hope that in the queer com­mu­nity we come to a place where we can look at bod­ies and not judge them by how per­fect we deem them to be, but that we look at bod­ies and think about pos­si­bil­i­ties for re­la­tion­ship.”

from the dat­ing scene. But that changed af­ter be­com­ing ac­quainted with Adams through a Google search and sub­se­quent emails.

“I made a point to Google ev­ery­thing I could about black les­bians in At­lanta. The name that kept pop­ping up all the time was Mary Anne Adams and “ZAMI,” she said.

The cou­ple met in per­son in 2008 at the Rustin/Lorde Break­fast, where Adams coin­ci­den­tally sat at the same ta­ble as Davis.

At the time, “It wasn’t about try­ing to date her, it was about try­ing to con­nect with the com­mu­nity and she (Adams) was the light,” Davis said.

A new aware­ness

Davis says Adams has never re­acted neg­a­tively to­ward her dis­abil­ity, but what has been in­ter­est­ing is the re­sponse of peo­ple

Above: An­gela Davis, legally blind since 2003, con­tin­ues to be a source of light for the visu­ally im­paired. Left: Evan Wain­wright is

an as­pir­ing ac­tor who has been meet­ing the chal­lenge of cere­bral palsy

since birth. (Pho­tos by Dar­ian Aaron) around her. “’You know Mary Anne is dat­ing that blind woman,’” Davis re­calls com­ments aimed at her dis­abil­ity.

“For her, (Adams) it was OK; she was more con­cerned with the fact that I was a min­is­ter (laugh­ter),” she said.

Davis re­jects the myth that other senses are height­ened if one is visu­ally im­paired; she be­lieves she is sim­ply more aware, which can also be ap­pli­ca­ble to sex.

“I’m very much aware of the body and shape and tex­ture. I think that’s more of who I am as a per­son than who I am as a per­son who is blind,” she said.

“There is some­thing won­der­ful about com­ing to un­der­stand in­ti­macy with bod­ies that aren’t per­fect,” she said. “I would hope that in the queer com­mu­nity we come to a place where we can look at bod­ies and not judge them by how per­fect we deem them to be, but that we look at bod­ies and think about pos­si­bil­i­ties for re­la­tion­ship. That’s my hope.”

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